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unsupportive husband

It's amazing how you don't really know someone until the time you need them most. I'm 34 years old and am 13 weeks into my first pregnancy. My husband and I have been married almost 2 years. Although a bit surprised, I was so excited to learn of this pregnancy. When I told my husband, his first response was, "Am I the father?" I've never given him any reason to mistrust me, and I work in the medical field and spend 60-70 hrs. a week at work while he works maybe 5 hours a day, and sleeps the rest of the day. This past Sunday as I was preparing for church, I began to bleed and have cramping. My husband was visiting his mother at the time. My mom (whom I was visiting) called him to tell him she was taking me to the hospital, and his response was, "Let me know how it turns out." He had no intention of meeting me at the hospital, but my mom told him he needed to be there, so he came. He made me feel guilty that I'd made him miss church with his mother. He says that his mom will always come first until she dies!!! Anyway, he was upset that a male examined me in the ER, and showed no emotion when I had an ultrasound and found out it was a boy. Me and the baby are fine, but I was told not to have sex. The minute we got home, he tried to force himself on me, saying that he had needs too. I was put on bedrest for two days, but he kept yelling at me to do things for him while he rested. I had a follow up appt. for another ultrasound yesterday to make sure everything was still ok, but he had no intention of going with me, and made plans for dinner with a client instead. He finally agreed to go after I got so hysterical and upset. I don't even know this man anymore. I'm so stressed out about it. When I mention to him how I feel, he says that I'm just too sensitive and need to be medicated. I think he just can't handle growing up and taking responsiblity. He's also such a momma's boy, and will always choose mom over me or this baby. HELP!!!

Tonya

missed abortion

this is my story-

i m 31. 9 years back i was pregnant very early in my marriage. we aborted. that time i didn't mind. in jan 2003 i was detected ovarian cyst, laproscopied. i hv painfil periods.

for a year we were trying to conceive. doctor gave me siphene 50mg and duphaston10mg. after 3 months i stopped taking them,frustrated. but that month only i got pregnant without the drugs. everything was fine.

but on 7th wk they didn't see any heartbeat. there was a large clot within the gestation sac. fetal pole, yolk sac seen. 3 days before i had d&c.

it is painful emotionally. i feel lonely. the conceptual products were sent for pcos karyotyping.
will i ever becm a mother?

kopo

Pregnant

Hi, my name is Kelly and I'm 18. I found out I was pregnant about 2 weeks ago.

At first I was nervous, but now I'm excited. At first my parents were furious, but now they are getting over it and helping me get through it since my bf isnt here for me.

I have my first doc. appointment on March 31st and I'm so exicted! I'm just scared that I'm going to have a miscarriage, 2 of my friends have been pregnant before and have had miscarriages, I am praying that it doesnt happen to me. I've been so sick lately and it sucks!

I can't wait til this passes haha.

Kelly

Love and Prayers for All the Beautiful Bellies Out

Thank you all wonderful women for your stories. Many are very inspiring and it feels good to know (I live in a small town) that so many women are feeling just the same as I am.

I am only five weeks but also scared and worried about carrying my beautiful baby to term. I have had the mild cramping (which can be scary), mood swings and fatigue but woke this morning feeling like I had just won the lottery and been built the house of my dreams.

For many years I was in an abusive relationship with a horrible man who forced me to have many abortions, It was horrible and I gave up on ever having a child of my own. I even thought from the abortions that I would never be able to conceive or carry again.

I have been dating my current boyfriend for four years and just last week I found we were pregnant. At first, he was really scared and tried to break up with me (promising to help financially with the child) but we went straight into counseling and he has now gotten over his fear and is being as supportive and loving as I could hope for. I have faith that we will make it and be good parents to this child.

I would like to say to all those mothers-to-be out there without supportive partners to believe in yourselves and your ability to cary the pregnancy alone, and try to get the fathers into some kind of therapy. All I expected was that my partner would learn better how to communicate so we could be friends throughout this experience and found instead that his own fear was keeping him from being the man he wanted to be.

At 34 years old, this will be my first child and I pray it will be happy and healthy although I am nervous about so many things: the father, the occasional cramping, working to support myself throughout this process and what my family will think about me having a baby out of wedlock but I have so much faith (it's all coming from inside).

Hang in there mommies! And good luck to us all!

Rhone

First pregnancy

I just found out I am 4 weeks pregnant.

I am already experiencing nausea and it really is all day. I have a horrible craving for chicken wings and I feel really tired. This is my first pregnancy and I am very excited and happy despite all the unpleasant side effects!

I am worried though of the risk of misscarriage and pray that everything will go well. I can't wait to get to the second trimester so I can enjoy it a bit more and start telling my family and friends!

Lee-anne