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My 3rd Little One

Having been 2 weeks late, I did a pregnancy test 2 days ago to confirm that I'm pregnant again. This is my 3rd pregnancy. Instead of being happy, as most would be, I'm depress and loss. DH wants me to terminate this pregnancy. He is determined that the 3rd little one will drastically affect our quality of life. He thinks that, he at 40 and me 38, we are too old to go through the mid-nite feeds and colic crys.

We spoke to our doctor about the options available for us - keep or terminate the pregnancy. He suggested that we take the next few days to think things through and call his nurse to fix up the next appointment when we made up our minds. But the moment we stepped out of his office, DH asked the nurse for a soonest possible abortion appointment. Seeing how adamant he was gives me the chills in the spine that even if we keep this pregnancy, he will not love the baby when he/she is born. I could bear it no longer and asked to leave to go to the washroom at the clinic and cried buckets before I appear again to leave the clinic with him. The whole way home, I could only cry.

I think the reason that I cannot bear to terminate the pregnancy is because I can already feel the baby flutter in my tummy - its alive! I cannot understand how DH can take it so simply and be so cold towards the whole thing. He thinks the abortion is only a procedure and we can move on without looking back or feeling remorse. I don't think I can think the same and handle the whole thing the same way.

On one hand, I know I will always remember this cruel event of denying this baby a chance to live. On the other hand, I fear to live the days of "I told you so" if I insist and carry on with this pregnancy.

I would welcome any comments, support or advice.

Loss

Think Positive!

I just found out that I was 5 weeks and 5 days pregnant a month ago and during my first check-up, everything seemed to be okay. Right now, I am already 2 months, 1 week and 3 days pregnant and I am just a little worried that something might go wrong. My mother had two miscarriages, and a lot of my friends and people I know had one too.

On my second check-up, everything seemed fine, but I can't help but worry that something might go wrong. People keep telling me to think positive and to just try to stay cool. I'm trying my best to, but I am so scared tomorrow when I go for my next check-up....

I just hope and pray that everything is okay....

Lee

tricia "losing hope"

After reading your story i wanted to write to you. i've just had my 2nd miscarriage and can totally understand how your feeling, my partner is there too but like you say it's not enough, i had my last miscarriage in june and he seems to forgot about the whole thing, whereas everyday it's all i think about, i feel alone and like ive failed, i see all my friends pregnant and i wish it was me.

I'm trying to get pregnant again now but i'm not too sure as im scared it will end in a miscarriage, and im scared to death of going through that again. My heart really goes out to you, I'm trying to hold on to every little bit of hope there is and pray.

Stay positive Tricia. I wish you all the luck in the world and hope it all turns out for you.

lb

anembryonic pregnancy

i found out when i went for my first scan in may 06, that i had an anembryonic pregnancy which is where the foetus fails to develop, but your body stills think that your pregnant but theres just no baby developing. (i thought i was 3months pregnant and even had a bump)

i was told that i would have to wait to miscarry the sac. i eventually did 06/06/06, and ended up having to be rushed in to hospital as the bleeding would not stop, and i was very weak, passing out & experiencing contractions as everything made its way out. i knew something was wrong in my pregnancy from day one, i was getting back pain, i had aneamia, and was going jaundice. i'm also rhesus negative blood group, i had a miscarriage when i was 16 as well and didnt realise if you are negative you need to have a injection when you miscarriage/give birth. i dont really know why this is, i had an injection after my 2nd miscarriage but i don't know whether it's too late now as i didn't have one after my first loss.

i'm only 18 now and was absolutely devastated when i found out there was no baby. i'm going to try and concieve hopefully again soon. i've only just stopped bleeding 2 1/2 month down the line, i didnt plan to get pregnant before, but now i feel so much loss im desperate for a baby, but really scared as i don't want to go through any more miscarriages.

lisa

Scared

Hi everyone I am 26 Yrs old and just found out that I am pregnant. I have a 5 year old that is beautiful and happy. I had a great pregnancy with him.

I am scared though with this pregnancy because i had a miscarriage back in March and had to have a D&C done in April. I am really worried because i am only three weeks preg. I found out when i went in for my yearly physical.

Do you want to hear something weird, I was having my period when i got pregnant and it did not end till about a week ago and now i am having some light cramping. I am scared that everytime i pee that i am going to see blood, and because i did bleed some they are treating this preg. like a possible ectopic preg. until I am far enough long to def. see if a sac is in my uterus. Has anyone had this problem or a past ectopic preg.

please pray that this preg is going to be ok. Thanks for letting me vent

Rachel