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39 and still trying for my first

Hi everyone, I recently got married for the first time ( I was 38 years old). I'm very happy, married to a wonderful man who has two great children, but we both want one of our own. We've been trying for 8 months with no luck. I've had a physical, all the hormone blood tests done and everything came back fine. Now I wait and wait month to month, and getting pretty discouraged. I hope one day soon we will be blessed with a baby.

Selena

Selena

The Greatest Feeling Ever.

Getting pregnant for me seemed like it would never happen. After being with a man for almost 4 years and trying so hard to have a baby. I began to give up. Unfortunately, this relationshipo didn't work out, but I still could not understand why I could not get pregnant. I eventually met the most understanding and amazing man in the world.

We've been together for 1 year and actually, to my surprise, I just found out im pregnant. So, ladies I know how hard it is, but I've learned that everything happens when it's supposed to. Don't get discouraged, keep faith and I know it will work out for you.

I also just found out my best friend is also pregnant, after she refused to have any babies right now. Seems like God works in mysterious ways.

Faith

Faith

The one thing we can't control

It really is kind of funny if you think about it. We are able to have control over so many things in our lives: what we eat, the way we dress, where we live, what friends we have, and we can even try to control other people as well.

But for those of us women who are trying to have a baby, we all know that is the one thing in the world it seems like that we can't control. For women who don't want a baby, it seems they easily conceive and often times don't give it a second thought. But once you want it so bad, the thought of it is in the back of your mind all of the time no matter where you are or what you are doing.

My husband and I have been together for 6 years and married for almost 1. We decided to have a baby almost 7 months ago, but what we decided and what we have control over are two very different things. You would think that it would be easy. We are both healthy. I am 24 and my husband is 28, but with every period and every negative pregnancy test, I am learning that it really is much more difficult than I thought it was going to be.

I guess what sparked me to tell this story is because today is the day my period is due and you guessed it, I have gotten another negative pregnancy test. I really don't know if my period will come tomorrow but i pray that it won't. I pray for my husband and for me because we have so much love to give and it would be nice to feel like just maybe we had a little control over this big decision.

I guess I will just wait until tomorrow and see what happens. Chances are I will wake up tomorrow morning, go to the bathroom and there it will be staring me in the face. But maybe not - maybe I am pregnant and I will have a beautiful baby nine months from now. And I know that all of the women out there who are reading this story know how helpless that makes them feel. That is, being at the point where you have no idea what tomorrow is going to bring. The beginning of a new and wonderful experience, or just another month of peeing on sticks and counting days only to end up in the same place next month.

You just have to keep telling yourself it's worth it and it will mean so much more to you when it really does happen. Good luck to all of you women out there in the same situation as me!!! Please pray for us!!!!

angie

Frustrated

I love reading all of the stories on this site, as it makes me feel like I'm not so alone.

I'm 36 years old. I have tried to get pregnant in a previous marriage for 18 months and was unsuccessful (which ended up being a
Godsend). I met the most amazing man 15 months ago and we are getting married in May and we are eloping to Fiji. Life just keeps getting better for me but there is only one thing missing! I have been trying for the last 6 months to get pregnant. I have seen a specialist, had all of the tests, everything is o.k but why am I not getting pregnant?? Last week I saw a herbalist who specializes in fertility. This week I'm seeing a lady who specializes in "inner harmony."

Most of my friends have children and I would feel embarrassed talking to them about it. Everything I've set out to do in life I have done. Easy, make a decision and then follow through - but not pregnancy. Something that is to a certain degree out of my control. Maybe the universe is trying to teach me to be patient, or to "let go" or to have a bit of faith?

I have thought a few times that I might be pregnant and felt really stupid when I get my period. I've even felt the presence of a little boy's soul around me on two different occassions. My mind playing tricks on me?

I hope this story gives hope to people out there who feel that they are alone in the journey to conception.

I hope I can post some happy news on this site sometime soon.

M

Happy Tears

Well I have never had a regular period so it was just something inside of me that said go a get a test, so I made a appt. to go have the test done. I was very scared but excited to find out because me and my boyfriend wanted a baby and had hoped it would happen soon.

We have known each other our whole lives so it just felt right to start a family!! Well, the lady came back into the room to tell me that I would be a mother. I was 5 weeks along and I just started to cry as I was so happy and couldn't believe that there was a baby inside of me. It was the best day of my whole entire life!!

Christina