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Toughest decision of my life.

i was 15 when i first found out i was pregnant. i was shocked, scared, i had no idea what to think or do. my mom was a teen parent, & she had always told me to raise myself above that.
i was scared that when i told my mom, she would be disappointed in me, & she was. i had let her down.
my baby's dad was there for me, although i'm not sure he took it as serious as i did. we'd been dating for 5 years, on & off. he was a smart kid, all good grades. scholarships to college his junior year for baseball and football. he wanted to join the National Guard. i knew i loved him & we'd already talked about marriage. we weren't really smart about the whole protection thing but we never thought it would happen to us.
i wasn't good in school, i wanted to do my own thing all the time. i was nervous & scared but at the same time it was apart of me, there was no way i would let my baby go.
but in the end i had to.
cody had so much to look forward to in life, i couldn't tie him down like that. & i wasn't doing my best. i could barely support myself, let alone a child.
so i chose to get an abortion.
it was the hardest thing i think i've ever had to do, it's been a year & still i have nightmares. i can't stand to see happy people holding their babies.
sometimes me & cody talk about it, & everytime we ask ourselves "what if" but i know i did the right thing, not only for me & cody but for the baby.
i couldn't have supported the baby the way any normal parents could have. & cody and i are still together, we still plan on getting married & living with each other, & one day eventually having another baby.
i still have my babies papers & ultrasound, i look at it every now & again.
but i know that we weren't ready.
& a baby would have only strained our relationship, were happy together still & i plan on making the most of that.
one day, we'll be a family though, just like it should have been.

sierra.

Will it ever happen?

I guess that is a question so many people ask, will it ever happen? Can I get pregnant? When should I go to the Dr and talk about IVF? WHY ME? Everyone else just looks at their partners and gets pregnant...

Questions I often asked myself. We got married in 2005 and started trying for a baby pretty much right away. Month after month, the rollercoaster ride of thinking I was pregnant only to get my period... going to the toilet to find out, nope not this month. It got to the point where having to do the 'act' to conceive lost all it's spark because it became more about having a baby than about being with my hubby.

So, after two years, we decided to put it on hold whilst I focused on work. As we knew when the 'right' time was to conceive, it also meant we knew the 'safe' time. So for the first time in 2 years... we had sex in the 'safe time'.

I was on business in another city when I purchased my favourite bottle of wine... I went back to my hotel room and poured myself a glass... but it didnt taste right, in fact, it was horrible and that is when it hit me.

The very first month of deciding to put our baby plans on hold... we had conceived. I was alone in a hotel room with a 'stick' that would change my life and I couldnt tell anyone. So I kept it to myself until I got home from my business trip.

That was 2 and a half years ago. We now have a beautiful baby boy. Im not sure I want to go back and ride that rollercoaster again, it can be soul destroying if you allow it to be so Im keen on just allowing life to take its own path and Ill be totally happy with the little blessing I have... he is so perfect.

My advice to anyone in a similar situation is THROW AWAY all your 'devices, tests, books and calendars. Dont give up hope but please please please, dont be too consumed about the right or wrong time to try, we conceived on day 8... not long after my period had finished.

It's so easy to say 'dont worry' but you will and you do worry, all I can say is dont plan...

Megan

Naturally

I'm 23 and have been with my partner for nearly 3 years. Previously we did not talk about starting a family, but lately it has been all about building a life together. We have had our ups and downs, but in the end we still find that we are most comfortable in each other's arms.

We have been sexually active for almost as long as we are together. And we never used any protection, just the most natural way which was pulling-out. We have been safe so far; I never got pregnant. We were not trying before this, but currently we are and have been trying for a month.

We really want to have a baby to sort of to 'seal our deal'. We both have stable jobs currently and are already planning to build a new room in our home for our future little one. We are keeping our fingers crossed for me to successfully conceive.

We are praying hard, but not getting too hopeful. In our eyes, we just tell each other "if it happens, it happens". There's no stopping us.

lys

Being a MOM

I was 17 yrs old and it was my second day of camp, on a class trip I had a boyfriend at that time. We were together for two yrs .He would always say lets go to the room and do something fun. I knew that he wanted to have sex with me.We did. One week later I was at school and it was lunch time. I was feeling sick so I called my mother to pick me up. My mother and I went to the doctor and the doctor told my mother that I was pregnant. PREGNANT??? My mother asked me questions about who the father was. I told her; she didn't like him at all. I texted my boyfriend and told him I was pregnant. He said OK, lets work things out. You're going to have the baby and we're going to be together till death. I was not happy when he told me that. When I was six months pregnant, I found out the sex of the baby. It was boy. When he was born he looked just like me. We were happy. Now he is three yrs old and I love children. I hope I have more in the future, but for now I love being a mom to one...awww.

Jeanette

Hanging in There....

Hey everyone! Well to start off, when my husband and I got together I was 14 and he was 17. On our 4th anniversary, when I was 18 and he was 21 we got married. That was June 08 I started on the BC patch in Oct 07 and stayed on it until Dec 08. I got off BC, we wanted to start trying. Well I lost my job and that put things on hold until July 09. We started trying then and now its Jan 10 and still no baby. I'm 20 and he's 22, will be 23 in Feb. I tried the ovulation strips for about 6 weeks but I didn't think they were helping that much so I quit with them. I have been watching my CM and paying very close attention to my periods. I get disappointed when I see all the girls my age I went to school with having babies left and right and living off the state, while my husband and I both have full time jobs. We both go to school and have lived on our own since I was 18 and he was 20. We have our own house and feel that we are ready for a baby. We have talked about it quite a bit. We know that there is never the "perfect" time to have a baby, but we are stable and want to expand out family. I have always had a feeling I'd say since I was 12 that we would have trouble conceiving. I can't explain it. We want a little bundle of joy so bad it hurts! We are ready for the dirty diapers and the sleepless nights and the crying and throwing up. One thing before I forget. I got my period early in May 09 and it lasted for 6 weeks. The Dr put me on provera to regulate them, but I only did that 2 months. Do you think that might have something to do with it? Any advice on how to cope with no baby yet? Any old wives tales that have worked for anyone would be greatly appreciated. Lacey

Lacey