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More Difficult than I Thought

My husband and I have been together for 10 years and married for 6. We decided in Dec 05 to start a family. We tried for 5 months and it is now May. I never thought it was going to be this hard.

I am very healthy and very fertile. I have regular cycles and I know when I am ovulating. Every month I thought this could be “it” until my period came. Now again my period is here and I am starting to worry. I am also, in a way, pissed off because here we are a couple who decided to wait and plan while others are getting pregnant by accident.

I know I still have a chance before I am considered infertile but it still makes me angry. I am the only one in my family that decided to wait. All my sisters got pregnant when they were teenagers. It just doesn’t seem fair to me when I hear about couples like me who are having a hard time and would make great parents.

I am 29 so I can’t help but think that maybe I waited too long. I am going to keep trying and my husband is going to a fertility clinic to check his sperm. If there is nothing wrong with his sperm I will have more hope and maybe it’ll just be a matter of time.

Diane

Pregnant?

My husband and I have been married for nearly 5 years. I've always know I wanted to be a mother. That feeling has been part of me for as long as I remember. My husband has been in medical school so we've waited to have children. I knew going into it that it might take a while.

After the second month of trying I started having some slight pain, almost like cramping. I spotted very lightly for 2 days then it stopped. I had terrible nausea one day and had to use the bathroom constantly. I was so excited! I got home from our trip and took a pregnancy test. I was so confused - the test was one very, very light line - not pregnant. Since it was so light I wasn't sure it was correct. Especially since I had so many symptoms. But those were gone. Nothing else happened.

A few weeks later I got my period. My cycles have been crazy ever since. Every month I can't wait to see if I'm pregnant. Checking for cervical mucous, taking my temperature and charting it...I just want a baby!!! I'm pretty sure it's about time for my period. I took a pregnancy test 2 days ago after work and it was negative. Still no period, and my nipples have been ultra sensitive for a week.

I'm afraid of taking another pregnancy test too early - I've wasted enough money doing that and had so much disappointment in the past. I don't want to tell anyone, yet I want to tell EVERYONE! I'm not sure when I'll take another test. Maybe in another 3 days if no period.

To all of you trying to get pregnant, I am praying for you. It is a painful and extremely emotional time that no one else can understand. It seems like someone is always having a baby shower that you're invited to or your best friend is talking about having a second baby...

Let's decide to keep trying and doing all we can to get pregnant, but not forget that we have friends and families and will miss out on a great part of our lives if we neglect everything else.

Keep trying!

M

bleeding and was not sure

When my boyfriend and I decided to have a baby it was the most difficult and emotional time of our life when after five years it had not happened.

My last period was on feb 20th 2006 and I did not think that I was even pregnant. I had no signs of being pregnant. I missed my period for a month and three weeks.

My boyfriend was the one who felt sick but we still did not think that I was pregnant after being disappointed many times. On the 10th of march I started seeing a brown discharge then some spotting. I had that for about four days, then on friday 14th six days before missing my period for two months. I started having some serious cramps and passing cloths and was quite sure I was also passing tissue.

I am still not sure if I was pregnant or not but some of my signs were, very painful back pains, cramps on my left side and the lower part of my tummy. The pain was just very very bad, the worst I have ever felt. It lasted for four days and counting. I am going to see the doctor on tuesday. My breast are still very sore.

i do hope for the best.

jess

scared i may never have a family

When me and my husband, Jessie, first married i was 19 years old and he was 34 years old. We both thought that since i was young we would not have a problem conceiving, when we thought the time was right. After all, we already knew that he had a daughter with his ex-wife and knew that he could have children.

After 8 years of being together we decided that it is time to try to have kids. No problem we thought this will be a piece of cake. Little did we know the battle that we were in for. Every month i was sure that i was pregnant and every month when I got my period it was like a big kick in the stomach.

I was crying every night when Jessie would go to bed, I didnt want him to see me cry because I always acted so strong and tough. I would sit around sometimes and think about on career day at school when the teachers would ask me what do you want to be when you grow up, and I would tell them "I just want to be a mom, I dont want to be rich or famous, I just want to be a mom."

Of course by this time i am thinking that I was never gonna get pregnant. After at least a year and a half of trying to get pregnant I go to my dr. who is an ob/gyn. We had 2 post-coitel tests and both came out the same. They showed that my husbands sperm are mostly dead and the ones that are moving arent swimming very good. At this point I ask the dr what were my chances of ever getting pregnant like this and he said slim to none. Well come to find out Jessie's ex-wife wanted kids and she had them, with the help of someone else. The dr said there was no way Jessie got her pregnant without going through IVF. This really devastated us.

At this point I think that all hope is lost, until I start researching different options on the internet. So now Jessie and I have decided to try IUI using donor sperm. We will start doing this next month and see what happens. I will let you all know what happens and if we have to do IVF instead, but so far I am hopeful that this may work and I am keeping my fingers crossed.

I am so glad that I can share my stories with others, and maybe it will help someone else decide on what they can do. I will update this story as we go along.

Jamie

trying for our 2nd

My husband and I got married when we were 22. Young, I know, but we started dating in high school.
Anyway, we thought we were young and so we waited to try having a baby. After 3 years of marriage, it happened, I was pregnant. We were not even trying. We were so excited, yet nervous at the same time.

My two older sisters both had a baby prior and so I had a lot of support. THe pregnancy was going well I thought until one night I started to bleed. It was pretty scary. I was already 11 weeks pregnant, right to the point where you are starting to feel better about the pregnancy and getting past that "12" week.

Well,I went to my dr. to find out. The baby stopped growing at 6 weeks and that I was going to miscarry. I was devastated. My older sister had a late miscarriage as well, so I thought what are the odds of me having one. Well, pretty good I guess.

My other sister had a miscarriage 2 months after I did. We thought what are the odds of all of us having one. Well, needless to say that Thanksgiving was a sad one, but we got through it with the support and love of our families.

We tried for the next 5 months and finally was pregnant again, once again with no assistance. We were very timid this time around. Very careful. This time I started spotting again at the same time. I was terrified. I went again to the dr. the next day, but to our surprise everything was fine ( thank God). The next few weeks I was still really scared.

Then the nausea set it, and I thought ok, here we go, the next few weeks are going to be rough. Well, to my surprise again, I was sick the next 7 months of my pregnancy. I knew when and where I would get sick to the place and time. It was scary. I ended up losing 12 pounds in my first few months, but then it did get a little better and I ended up gaining 15 lbs . I gave birth to a healthy baby boy ( 8. 14oz.) Charlie is his name. He is 4 now. We are so blessed to have him in our lives.

We are now trying to have our second baby. We have been trying now for about 18 months. I never thought that we would have so much trouble since I got pregnant before. I have always had irregular cycles, so I thought that maybe it would be possible, but then when I got pregnant before, I was relieved.

Anyhow, I was diagnosed with PCOS and therefore have been told that our next step would be to start IVF treatments. I am 30yrs. old, so I know I still have a little time and we were told our chances are good, but I am really nervous about the whole thing.

We want more children more than anything, but IVF is very costly, and I was told very stressful and time consuming. I am not complaining, I am just very nervous. We pray that this works for us.

Thanks for listening!

Gina