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miscarriage at 14 weeks

Hi, I had a m/c at 14 weeks. I'd had slight bleeding & spotting (pinkish & brown in colour) for nearly 2 weeks before this happened. I had a scan at the early pregnancy unit when I was 13 weeks (7 days after the bleeding started) and I was told everything was OK. The baby had a strong heartbeat and was moving around - I even got a picture. I was quite relieved. However a week later I woke up having waves of abdominal cramps every 30 seconds. I knew immediatley what was happening, I was having contractions - I was devastated. 45 mins later I gave birth to my tiny baby, still completely inside the amniotic sac. I was very distraught and very sad, more for the baby as I believe I did something to cause this. I held the baby and later decided to bury it in the garden under a newly planted miniature rose bush - this was my baby, part of me, I had to treat it with the utmost care & respect. This was now 7 weeks ago and although I will never forget & never get over what happened I am at least coping with it. There are times where I still break down and feel very sad and there is not a day that goes by when I don't think about it. I'm trying to desperately to get pregnant again but I have not been successful. I keep doing tests (the last one being today) but they have all been negative. I have not yet had a period either so I think my body must be really messed up. I hope I can get pregnant again soon and have a successful pregnancy - I know I'll be so excited when I get the positve test at last but I also know I'll be quite scared. Thank you for listening. x x

KC

Our Loss

I have a 2 year old son named Brady. All I wanted was a little sister or brother for him. I was so excited when I found out I was pregnant on the first try insince Brady took 8 months to concieve! I went for my ultrasound when I was just 5 weeks and they said they see the sac. I went for another ultrasound and they said they see the baby it's measuring normal but I'll have to come back because they were not to sure if they can see a heartbeat. The day before my next ultrsound I was spotting. then I was spotting bright red and I new something was wrong. I went for an ultrasound and we saw no baby just the fluid that was empting out. I ran to the bathroom crying and then the blood started to come. I had to get 2 d&c's beacuse they didn't get it all out the first time they said. Like one wasn't hard enough! I was told I was 9 weeks and 5 days but the baby was only about 6 weeks. I could not believe that it was happening to me! I'm 29 healthy, in shape ect. Now I know it can happen to anyone and it happens a lot! Now I am more scared than ever to have another one because I know that you can miscarry at anytime! I thought by the 14 week mark you were in the clear, but after reading these stories now I know otherwise. I have to keep up the hope that I will have a healthy pregnancy again. Good Luck to everyone out there going through a miscarriage. It's the single most hardest thing I have ever been through.

Janelle

Pain with Miscarriage

I had a miscarriage 2 weeks ago. I had back pain a week prior to the M/C but it is continuing to get worse. I called my OB and she prescribed Tylenol with Codine which is not helping. What should I do/

Robyn

I knew something was wrong

I was so very excited when I became pregnant this month. My husband and I have waited for years to become parents. I have a genetic disorder and many doctors had scared me into not having a child. I recently saw a new ob/gyn who said that since my disorder didn't affect me then why would I worry? Just go for it! So we did. I'm 38 and was more worried about down syndrome than anything else. I got pregnant after 3 months of trying and was so excited. I went to the doctor right away to confirm. He said he normally doesn't see pregnant women until week 7 but he would see me because of my risk factors. I was assumed to be 5 weeks or so but my hcg levels were low. I felt flushed, crampy, and kind of like when your period is imminent for a week. I tried to keep positive but I was having brownish and pinkish discharge for a few days before the bleeding started. I passed a clot going to the bathroom and knew it was over. Doing research now I realize that 70-80% of all fertilized eggs are not normal and viable. I'm shocked but the more people I talk to about it the more prevalent I guess it really is. I just really hope I don't have a pattern of miscarriage, that my husband and I can have a healthy baby. We're going to try after my next cycle. Good news is that I can get pregnant I guess. You can't believe how attached you can get in a couple of weeks. I'm so sad. It is really a helpless feeling to lose the pregnancy. It's shocking when you see the clotting and the blood. It's very scary. I hope this helps someone else going through this. I feel for every woman this has ever happened to.

Jennifer

My Son

I found out I was pregnant on May 27th, I was so excited, everything in the world seemed wonderful. My husband was so happy, he couldn't keep it to himself. He wanted to tell everyone and he did. We both did, but he seemed so happy to do it, I let him tell most of the time. Everyone was so happy for us, We had been to gether over 9 years and this was something everyone was waiting for. Life was good. Everything was progressing normally. Nothing unusual through the entire pregnancy. At our 14 week U/S things looked great, the heart beat was strong, the baby was kicking and moving around. As I was moving further towards my 18 week appointment. I noticed that I was not really gaining any weight, and my belliy was not getting any rounder. Assuming it was one of those phases of the pregnancy where you don't really gainmuch weight. I thought nothing of it. Plus I am over weight and I was told that I might not gain much weight since i am already overweight. Which was fine by me.

So it was the day of my 18 week ultrasound, I was 18Weeks and 4 days, and we figured since it was just going to be a quick check up my husband didn't need to go. I so wish he had.

When I was ready to get the U/S by the dr, she asked me how I'd been. I told her I was great, I wasn't feeling any movements yet but I was excited to find out what the sex of the baby was. She smiled and started to gel me up for the U/S, she kept going over my belly, and we couldn't see any movement, she tried to shake around my belly to wake the baby up incase it was sleeping. He didn't move at all. Suddenly I could feel my heart rate speeding up, I felt a dread unlike anything I ever felt before. Something was wrong. She tried and tried to see, but nothing, no movement. Then she pulled out the heart monitor to check onthe heart. No sound, nothing but static. She could see me getting worked up and told me not to panic, she was going to send me to get another sonogram, and double check everything. About 2 hours later, I was back at her office. The technician would tell me anything, but I was already tearing up and feeling like the end of the world. Still I kept a little hope, just in case, making promises to everything about what I would do if my baby was ok.

Once back in the office. I saw the Dr. as soon as I entered, she said she was trying to get my husband on the phone, right away I knew it was bad, there was no hope. I had already anticipated this, so I just numbly nodded. She directed me to her office and I went in. I took a seat, and she sat down. I will never forget her words.

"I'm sorry, the baby is dead" At first hearing her say that it seemed so surreal, I just nodded. She said she was trying to get my husband on the phone. After that it is mostly a blur, but I know that my husband came in as soon as he could, less then an hour later. We both just held each other and cried. I was in the waiting room at this time, but thankfully it was empty. I told him what she had told me. She saw he had come in and called us both back to her office. She told us it looked like the baby had died recently and that I would have to have it removed.

She scheduled us for a vaginal birth the next day, tuesday evening we were both in the hospital, I was induced and given and epidural for the pain. Wednesday at 12:44pm I gave birth to my beautiful baby boy. He was so small, much smaller then an 18 week baby would have been. Its been emotionally painful ever since then. I am trying to keep it together so I don't become a crying burden for my husband. He's been great through the whole thing, and I know he is hurting very badly too. I've promised him that we are meant to be parents and that we will have healthy babies soon.

Its been one week since I lost my son. It doesn't get any less painful but it does get easier to cope with. There are good days and bad, and I'm looking forward to the days when I will once again be pregnant and hopefully carrying a healthy child that we can share our love with.

Payton