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Band Baby

My name is Jessica. I am 17 years old, and I am the mother of a beautiful baby girl.

When I was 16 I was in my high school marching band. I was the lead marching clarinet. My boyfriend was drum major. One Saturday night in October, we had a marching competition and we didn’t get back to the school until around 1 am. The bus was very dark and very quite as everyone was making out. Me and my boyfriend Ethan went a little too far, but I knew it was ok because I loved him.

2 months later I found out I was pregnant and I was only 16. I told Ethan and I cried for hours, I didn’t want him to leave me but I figured he would. He didn’t; he told me that he loved me and he'd always be there for me. My parents kicked me out when they found out so I moved in with Ethan. 8 months later we had a beautiful baby girl with red curly hair and big green eyes. Just like her mommy. We named her Stephanie.

She is now 1, and Ethan and I are in our senior year of high school. Our school has a daycare center so they watch Stephy while we have classes. Ethan and I are both Drum Majors this year in the Marching Band and our little Band Baby runs around the field being the little band geek she'll grow up to be.

Just because you get pregnant at an early age doesn’t mean your life is over. It means another life is beginning. It’s two more feet that will walk. Two more hands that will touch. Two more eyes that will see. One more heart that will beat. And one more mouth that will speak.

Stephanie Lauren is the love of my life. If I had the chance to turn back time, I wouldn’t. Every time she calls me mommy and reaches to give me a hug, I cry. If I gave her up I would be missing this wonderful opportunity. I’m glad she's in my life.

I love you Ethan, thank you for standing by me and our Band Baby....

Jessica

i thought it couldnt happen to me.... but it did

I was always pretty much a rebel. You know, skipping school, talking back to my mother; but I never really fit in. Then I met Dawn.

She was older and cooler. I started hanging out with her. On the weekends I would go to her house and drink and have sex with random guys then during the week we would skip school and go do crazy things. I really felt like I fit in. I was hooked on alcohol by the second week I started hanging out with her.

Then one night we didn’t have any alcohol so we decided to walk around downtown. It was me, Dawn and a friend named Kirsten. We were standing in front of our high school when we saw this really nice convertible coming down the street. Dawn and Kirsten started hooting and hollering. I was a little embarrassed. But when they pulled up to the curb where I was standing I started to sweat. "You girls want to go for a ride?" the driver asked. So we all hopped in. we drove around for hours. I was so scared. But there was a guy in the passenger’s seat who I had a little crush on.

But get this: here we are in the back of a car 14, 17 and 16 with 2 guys who are 30 and 20. After they dropped us off at Dawn's house I started to feel like I sort of liked the 20-year-old. I started hanging out with him on the low. Almost every weekend we were together. But when we would have sex I was nervous but after I would think to my self... no it wont happen to me I had sex with a lot of guys, I wont get pregnant.

Then one day it happened. I was at the mall and I threw up. I thought to my self no this couldn’t be. First I miss my period now I’m throwing up. I’m only 14! It was true I was pregnant. I told the guy right away. He was excited. That week we planned to tell my mom together. But I just couldn’t hold it in any more. I told her. The next day she pressed charges on my baby’s father. I couldn’t believe it.

He got out 2 months later though but I wasn’t allowed to see him. That really tore me apart. Here I am 14 and 3 months pregnant and no support. Well 2 months after that my baby’s father went back to jail because he came to see me. That was May 2005 now it is May 2007 and he is still in jail. The father denies him now but I know the truth. I have had my baby. He is 20 months old and the cutest thing ever.

I am 17 and live on my own because my mom kicked me and my baby out when he was just 3 months. It is hard sometimes being a single parent but I have learned from my mistakes. So girls if you feel like you don’t fit in please don’t go to extremes to prove that you can. Just be you.


audrey

19, pregnant, but determined

I currently have one year left on my drama course, and then have three years at university, then a one-year PGCE so I can begin my lifelong career of teaching. A month ago I found out that I'm pregnant, but with help from my tutors, my family and friends, I am still going to get my education and going to bring my son or daughter up with respectable values and work ethnics.

I met the father 2 years ago on a holiday to Spain whilst staying with some family. They introduced us and we hit it off (Although I was 17 and he was 24 at the time) in February this year I visited my family again and hooked up with the same guy (I am now 19 and he is 26) things took off from where we had left them two years before, and I ended up flying back out three weeks later to see him. We didn’t really speak much when I got home so I figured it was a holiday romance that ended.

He was moving back to England to his hometown (which is about 300 miles away from where I live) and three days before he was due to drive home I went to the teen sex clinic and found out I was pregnant with his child. At first I was shocked into choosing a termination, but when I FINALLY got some time on my own, and discovered I could carry on with my career, I changed my mind. My family and my friends are very shocked with my choice, I am not the sort of person anyone would expect this to happen to, but although I am the least likely, I am probably the most capable.

I am in my 11th week, and researching new things everyday, I’m looking forward to getting a bump and having a second scan and finding out the sex. I’m not scared, but I am changing, my entire lifestyle will soon be completely different and I am already starting to let go of my old life. The baby's father is offering lifelong support, and I believe in my heart that he means it, but I also believe in my heart that ultimately, I am on my own.

The next five years whilst I’m still in education are going to be the hardest five years of my life, anything I’m imagining-ten fold. I have inner faith in myself and I know I am a strong person with a huge heart and a lot of love and passion to give. I do not plan on being on benefits for the rest of my life, and I do not plan on disappointing my child.

I know I’m going to be okay, and I hope my story helps other girls who are finding it hard to keep positive, just remember, when a baby is born, so is a mother.


Kate

My Pregnancy PART 1

Well it was just before new years in 2006 and I met a very sexy, very nice guy Scott. We met out at a club one night and one thing lead to another.

We spent the next few weeks casually seeing each other, it wasn't long after that I thought I was pregnant (I have always been on time with my periods, and was 12 days late). I went over to my best friend Tash's place and did a home pregnancy test (she's has 3 kids of her own and was very supportive). I was heaps scared of telling my family because I knew it would disappoint them.

So the test was positive, the next day once telling my mum she came with me to the doctors I then had a blood test which confirmed I was pregnant, just over 6 weeks (Feb 2007). I then decided to tell Scott about it all, the first thing he said to me was "SO UR GETTING AN ABORTION" (I am and have totally been against abortions; it’s just a personal choice, nothing against those who don't or can’t find any other option)

Well Scott came to see me a few weeks later, suggesting we become boyfriend and girlfriend and I was against the idea if it was just cos I was having his baby, so he left and didn't want to be apart of it.

It has now been a few months since then. I’m just over 5 months (may 2007) and loving every minute of feeling the baby moving around, Its a shame that Scott doesn't want to be a part of it, my baby is going to have a great life my family were shocked at first but are very supportive and I couldn't ask for anything more.

I recently lost my job as a 3rd yr apprentice chef and was made redundant, but living with my sisters and them helping and supporting me has been great I can't thank them enough!!!

My baby is due on 20th September 2007 and I can't wait I’m so excited about meeting my beautiful baby and spending our lives together...

For those in the same situation: Hang in there. I mean, it’s been hard and my family have been awesome I have felt heaps lonely but always had them there to talk to, it may seem like its hard and there is no solution but then something great happens and it all works out.

Thanks for listening to my story (I will be posting my birth story when bubs arrives too- this was written 17/05/07)



Alison Pestell

Not So Bad After all

I was 16 when I received the news I was to be a mommy. It all started when my period didn't came normally. For the whole month of May I was bleeding lightly but it was not my period. My mom was concerned and in a way was suspicious that I was pregnant. She took me to the doctor and what do you know, I was indeed pregnant. My world came tumbling down and the worst part was that I let my mom down.

When the doctor told me the news, the first thing that came out of my mouth was "I don't want it." My mom told me that I was to have the baby no matter what. I was terrified; I didn't know what was next.

My relationship with my boyfriend was not going well, we were often fighting and it got to the point were he was physically abusive. I didn't wanted to go with him but it was the only choice. The same day I found I was pregnant, he picked me up and I moved in with him (he lived with his brother). By the way my boyfriend was 19 at the time.

He was happy about the baby, but I was not that excited because in the first place he had always forced me to have sex and in the second place I didn't wanted to drop out of school. So I decided to keep on studying and he supported me.

A few months later my boyfriend and I moved in with my mom (personal problems with his brother and wife). Things were getting pretty bad; he became more abusive verbally and physically.

On November 24, 2003 I had my gorgeous baby who we named her Karla. I was the happiest mother! Time past, I kept going to school, taking care of my husband and daughter. The relationship was the same, I was hit often and he always had something bad to say about me.

I graduated High School and received a Scholarship (I has always been a good student). So decided to further my studies. I started school at a university with the goal of becoming an accountant. From that point on things got worst. Living with him was living in hell. He was an excellent father but the worst partner.

So one day, I decided to end that relationship (by the time I graduated High School we were living in our own home). I moved in with my mom, I found a job. The first steps were hard but all worth it.

Today I'm a full time mother, college student, and secretary. I adore my baby and she has been my inspiration to keep on going. It’s a hard path but it has helped me to mature.

Girls think before you act. Having a baby is the most wonderful experience but it brings a lot of responsibilities. Sometimes we didn't even realize it.


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