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Being 18 life has changed dramatically for me.I never thought it would happen to me but it did. Its not that i regret anything. Do i wish i couldve done it over? Of course. But my baby boy who is currently 4 months old is the best thing to ever happen to me his name is Wesley i got the time from my dad's middle name. I get looked at alot. Most of the time its either an ew! Or pitty look.I hate it. I see the dad all the time he always comes over and he pays for everything. Im very greatful for my little Wesley. I look at him all the time and think that hes mine ! Being a single mom is not easy but deffinitely worth it.!

amy

deep admiration ! xx

im here to put this HUGE encouragement down here, i TRUELY admire all of you

my cousin is 14 just a yr younger than me wen she got pregnant i stayed with her through it all, 9 moths of hard hard work. the morning vommiting, the sweat, the tears of her crying ALL the time, the body marks, the contractions. everytime she cried i cried with her, just the look of pain on her face drove me insane, but girls, she borned the most beautiful girl and the look of her wen she held her baby, the tears she cried, were diiferent, they were tears of accomplishment.

I really really am proud of all of you, your strength, your bravery to raise and have your own child, i REALLY hope you girls all the best, you guys, are just simply AMAZING ,and BEAUTIFUL. you all need encouragement and i know that, you all need positivity. BUT lsn girlz, your baby will NOT destroy your life so dnt be upset! she/he WONT limit your options at all! She/he will be just as a baby brother or sister, so dont let your baby get in the way cuz it will defintaly not, she/he will be the smiling face you see once you get in2 the door after a long day of school or college. this baby will be 110% yours! you made her/him, you delivered her/him she/he's just gonna b your big ball of sunshine and work of art!

you are WAY better than a person now, you are a MOTHER. give your baby the life it deserves, but remember give YOURSELF the life you deserve as well ;) xxox ily all <3 thank u for showing the world its worth living and THNKZ 4 the inspiration :')

tracey

There is Hope

Hello, I am 18 and I just though I would briefly chare my story with you, for those who might find it helpful and hopeful. My baby girl will be turning one year old January first, and this year has been the bEST year of my life I left out my name for family of mine that read this and dont know ALL the details.. :) .

I started dating my boyfriend (now husband) When I was 15 years old (not official till 16, due to the fact that I am LDS and my parents) I was born in august, so a few months later (early january we had sex for the first time. I always thought myself to be the person to say NO and when it started happening I was scared, but not thinking at the moment. I think everyone thinks "it wont happen to me" Well because I did not get pregnant, we did it again. and again. I finallly found out I was pregnant in April of 2009. I was currently running track, on varsity. I had to hide the pregnancy at first so I had to stick through with it through track, which was hard because I had terrible nausea. I threw up so much I lost 11 pounds, and At home I could not over eat or my parents would be suspicious.

I was scared to tell my BF, not because I though he would be angry, honestly the thought of him leaving me NEVER even crossed my mind until a few months after( Just from hearing about most teen pregnancies) I was just scared for the fact i was pregnant. Well I finished up that semester as a sophmore, my BF graduated that year from high school.

My parents and his parents pushed up towards adoption for weeks. I did not want to do this, I was honestly and truly in love with him, and my baby. I was adopted as a Kid (when I was 4) And have not met my mother father or talked to them. all my life I have always wondered what my life would be like if I had not been adopted.

I finally told my mom that he should just stop trying to push me towards adopting i was keeping my baby and that was that. so she accepted it and we moved on.


Oh yes the telling my parents part... Well actually i did not have to tell them, my mom could tell from my behavior (bathroom a lot, ouking my guts out, i slept ALOT) she just figured it out and they onfronted me about it. I cried, they were disappointed, and told me all my options. I always knew abortion was an option, but no way id rather do adoption for a family wo would be able to take care of my little one better.

I think back now, and if I had got an abortion, I would have rather died now that I know my little baby girl. she and my husband are the light of my life. when i was pregnant i always got weird looks from people (even now with my baby i do, i really try not to let them get to me, cuz i know im doing great) i look really young for my age which doesnt help, i look like im 15 not 18....

my husband goes to school in the AM and works in the PM I watch my little girl and I do nanny once a week where i can bring my lil girl with me. Might i say one of the most important things is for my husband to FINISH COLLEGE that way he can get a better job and we will not live like this forever (tight on money)

we live paycheck to paycheck and dont have much extra cash to spend, but we always make sure our little girl has what she neeeds.

everyone thought that i would not be able to make it when i was pregnant. not even my parents. they were SOOO supportive, but they thought i was making the wrong choice. now everytime i see them they tell me how great they think we are doing and how happy our little girl is all the time.

Me and my husband got married in september when I was 17. we have been married over a year and I love him more than anything Sure, we have fights sometimes (all couples and parents do even if you dont thihnk they do they prob just hide it!) but they really arent over anything too serious, its just when I need his help and hes caught up playing on the nintendo (and after going to school and work all day he deserves it!) or little things like that and we never yell at each other or hit each other. no man who loves you should ever hit you!!!

I just got so sick of being "catogorized" most teen moms have bad lives, dont do a good job, I am not everyone else, I am my own person to make my own decisions. My parents said we had many options, one option they would not allow is letting us both live under there roof raising the baby if we kept her we had to move out. I am soo thankful for this, It has helped me grow up a lot more, and its so nice having your own place without your mother critiquing everything you do.My advice, if you can afford it and your man is with you, live on your own, not dependant on your parents.

We are so excited for our first christmas with our little girl, and I beat all the statistics I hated that told me I could nto be a successful teen mom. I have graduated from a massage therapy program, and am still working on my high school degree. (must have high school diploma or GED to be licensed as a therapist) I have online courses right now, but may just get my GED and go straight onto college to do interior designing. massage and this are things I find very interesting.

So please dont give up hope, know that there are tons of resources and people willing to help you out and support you, even if they are nto your babys dad or your parents. just because people say most teen moms get divorced, drop out of school and basically lead miserable lives, doesn't mean you have to be that person, only if you let yourself be that person. I am not saying it will be easy, but It will be the most rewarding thing you will ever do in your life, being a mom. I look back at my getting pregnant, and while it would have been nice to postpone it a few years, I cannot imagine my life any other way, I would not want it any other way. And I am looking forward to having more kids in the future!!!!!!

Have hope!!!!!!




tracey

Katrina & Ryan's Story

My father is in the military so my family and I move around about every three years. I have never really had a stable relationship with guys because of the moving around but I met Dillon (baby's dad) when I was sixteen and he was seventeen. I was a junior and he was a senior. Before we started dating I told him that in less then five months I would be moving to Mannheim, Germany. We both didn't care and "fell in love" instantly. We didn't end up having sex until about three days before I flew to leave to Germany. We both agreed to have a long distance relationship because we thought that we were gonna last forever. We were just honestly young and silly. However, we started off great we talked everyday on the phone and webcam and everything we were close. So about a month and half passed and I started showing signs of me being pregnant so Dillon and I discussed things and we both decided it was time for me to take a pregnancy test. It was positive. So Dillon got a job and we were gonna wait a little longer to tell our parents. Little did I know that Dillon was cheating and partying and spending all his money on drugs, drinking, and his new little girlfriend. We started growing apart and I was just slowly getting closer to my due date.We eventually told our parents and they were very supportive! By the time I knew it Dillon was going off to college and I was getting ready for labor. So Dillon was doing is own thing off in college and we were still together. Yes, I was dumb for staying with him after everything. But I did. I thought that when Ryan was born he would man up. So oct 27 came around and yet no change so I left him and Ryan and I were solo. We just had each other and our family. I must say that everything Dillon did made me a better mom and person. I became stronger. I appreciate it and Ryan will have all the love and support he will need. I hope my story can help other girls. I'm not saying my son was a mistake but I am saying I wish I would have waited a few more years.



-Katrina

Katrina Renee

14 lost .

well im 14 years old and i just found out that im pregnant . my boyfriend is about 4 years older den me and i feel like my life just crashed down on top of me . i havent even told my dad yet . i dont have my mom cause she doesnt even want me basically . its hard going thru each day just thinkingg about the whole situation , i cant even walk around the house with out feeling guilty cause my dad doesnt even know . im only a freshmen and i feel stupid saying oh but my boyfriend loves me when honestly i dont even know . i dont want to consider abortion i really dont but at the same time my boyfriend may also get locked up and i dont want to feel guilty about that . i want to be a better mother then how my mother was . i actually want to be there for him/her . but also im a cheerleader and a represenative . i have such a bright future . since i found out that i was pregnant , my grades have been dropping terribly . i just hope god can forgive me for this and give me the strenth to know what to do . i just hope it comes to me soon cause im running out of time .

leelee santiago torres