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Well, my story still shocks me! I am 24 and had a 2-month summer fling with a guy I was NOT in love with and was NOT planning to marry... I became a Christian when I was 19 and gave up drugs and was "waiting until I was married before I slept with anyone again"…

Well that lasted 5 years until this whole unexpected event in my life. After I decided that I was being silly and I needed to leave this guy and that I was ready to stop rebelling again, I found out I was pregnant. All kinds of things went through my mind and the "father" was the first one I told.

I gave him a choice if he would be involved or not, which he chose not to because he never had kids never wanted them, never got into serious relationships and "never" even wanted to get married (he's 32 now). He pretty much begged me to get an abortion but I just knew I had a little boy spirit in me and I couldn't do it! Sure enough I found out that my son is indeed a son and I haven't talked to the "father" since I told him.

I have a good job as a nurse and a good support system; I’m still attending school and will be able to do it… But I really want a role model for my son. I’m sad that I am not with anyone at this point that he can call "dad" and I hope I meet someone while he is still very young. The hardest part for me is people's opinions and peoples "pity", they think I should give him up because I’m single or that I should feel regret and be terrified.

But I think it happened for a reason.. And I’m excited… and a bit nervous! I am 25 weeks pregnant, I’m a little scared that I’ll feel trapped or I won't like being a mom (even though I have always wanted to be one)… I guess I just have to take things day at a time!


Single mamma!

Rumors

My boyfriend at the time and me were really close. Went on and on about having a kid when it was good and time. I wont forget him ever saying "I wont leave you, like my father did to me. "

That will stick out the rest of my life. Later on yes we went on to have sex but didn’t. Not saying we didn’t try because if that were true I would have had nothing to say here. But the day after we had "tried" he went out of state to his grandparents, to visit.

While he was gone I went on visitation with my mother. No big deal. Until I get a call from a friend screaming at me about saying I was pregnant. I got mad and freaked out on her, I mean come on I hadn’t even talked to anyone at all since I left to my moms. I told everyone that called "No! It’s not true! " But the rumors went on. They went so far as to my boyfriend being told while with his grandparents. That was bad.

He went on to say we hadn’t had sex, which we hadn’t, which he then said I had to be lying because we hadn’t. Well I never said I was so there the rumor stuck.

I found out I was pregnant in mid-August 2005 and no less then 2 1/2 months along. I was 14. My boyfriend was in another state and there I was standing in front of my doctor, just told I was pregnant and I freaked again. I learned that " you can get pregnant with out having full blown out sex," and that I didn’t know.

I later lost the child that had become my whole life in October 2005, at roughly 5 months. It killed me. And yes I had tried to tell the father and given up, but after losing it I tried again and got nothing but his aunt screaming in my ear.

It was hard. And I won’t forget, ever. Neither will his best friend who’s my friend and some close friends of mine as well.

His name was Christopher James Howell. Never got a breath a life yet was the breath of mine.

I ran into the father 2006 summer, he still won’t listen. To them and all my old friends it’s a rumor that I started, won’t drop and I am lying about. But I tried to tell them. So truly. If the father ever asked or any at that matter I would tell them anything they wanted to know.

I won’t forget the father or my son.

Not a day goes by that I don’t. I am engaged now and we are happy. He knows, I told him.


Anna

aa blessing

I found out I was 5 months pregnant in the 9th grade. I told my boyfriend and he was like, "is u going to keep it?"

He wanted me to so badly so I decided to keep it. My son name is Jamarion Clark. He was born on Feb. 10,2006. When I had him my mom stood beside me and said, "that baby boy is a blessing".

So now me and my boyfriend broke up, but he still takes care of his son.


shay

Not so bad

I found out I was 6 weeks pregnant March of 2006. I knew because my boyfriend told me. Serves us right for not using condoms and I had just got a car, so I would leave school to see him all the time.

Anyways after I told him, he was like, "man this is gone be tough" but I want us to be a family. I was the one asking him what he wanted. His family was happy. Nov, 28, 2006 I gave birth to our daughter, and now we’re planning to get married and move into together at the end of the year.

I also plan to attend a local college for nursing in a month.

All in all, boys are not all bad.


kendra

he's just not worth it

I was 1 month and 6 days pregnant when I found out. I was out of the country and there was no way for me to get a hold of the baby’s daddy. My family kept on trying to talk me into giving the baby up for adoption or getting an abortion but I just couldn’t do it. The baby was my little angel... she is my hero. If it weren’t for her I would still be using drugs- if not dead.

I got a hold of my baby daddy’s friend and I told him about the baby.

I came back to the States and looked for him but I just couldn’t find him. All his friends are hiding him.

He's a gang member, a drug dealer, and a druggie himself- even if he wanted to be in my daughter’s life I wouldn’t let him. I still wish there was a way for me to at least talk to him because you never know... she can also change his life around like she changed mine.

I'm not in school right now because its just too hard and I’m going to start working 3 jobs. But I’m getting back in school sometime this week.

I don’t need a man in my life to get through raising my daughter- I just need to be strong and keep my head up.

And the day he decides to show his face- who knows- many I will give him a chance to see her- but only if he’s changed.

My daughter doesn’t deserve to live the gangster life.


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