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single mom at 15

Hi my Jasmine Gray. I’m 15 years old and pregnant. At first I didn’t know how to tell my parents that I was. But then I had my lawyer tell my parents. I found out I was pregnant when I was in lock up. At Terry Thomas Girls Assessment program. It was a mandatory thing that every one had to do. I also got tested for STD’s and AIDS but fortunately the only thing that came out positive was that I was pregnant. I wanted to break down in tears I would rather have an STD that I can get rid of rather then something I can’t. I didn’t want anyone to find out that I was pregnant not even my family. I wanted to kill my self but then I thought about the life I had in side of me and I couldn’t do it. At around 2 months I thought about adoption but then I got to see the kid, feel the baby’s heart beat, and feel it kick then I knew I couldn’t do it. This baby girl is mine to keep, I got myself into the situation, now I have to live with the consequences. When I told my baby’s daddy that I was pregnant he was so excited but then it all came crashing down when my parents told me that they were going to press charges against him for rape because of his age. I love this person to death and he told me that he will wait forever for me and when I turn 18 he wants me and his daughter to move in but im scared. That he wont wait for me and move some where else like all the other teen fathers who leave there baby mama’s. and he told me that I was the most beautiful girl he has ever laid eyes on but I don’t know if I can believe it because he might just be like all the other guys.

jasmine

Trying to be strong

The baby’s father and I were together for a total of 6 months. After 2.5 months together, I got pregnant. At first he told me he wanted to be there and support me 100%. He even asked me to marry him and I honestly believed it was love. We moved in together for a good month before things took a sudden turn for the worse. One week while I was away visiting a friend, at 4 months pregnant he called me up to say he moved out and is getting back together with his ex. He said he doesn’t want a child and needs to get his life together. I was devastated. Finding a decent apartment in NYC is very tough and stressful, but found one I did in less than two weeks. I moved into my own apartment. I really hope this baby is OK. They say babies can feel their mother’s stress while in the uterus. On top of all the normal stress of being a first-time expectant mom, I also had the stress of moving twice and a man who I thought loved me leave during the course of my pregnancy. I’m trying to relax and meditate and have taken up yoga. The baby’s father is still with his ex, but he’s calling lately because he still wants to be part of the child’s life. I wish he could just leave and I never have to see him again. What makes it tough is his parents were and still are excited to be grandparents. They continue to call and support me. My own family is a 7 hour drive away. My job with its benefits and insurance is keeping me here in the city. Deep in my heart I know he doesn’t deserve to be the dad, but because his parents are very loving helpful people I may have to rely on their help since they are closer than my own family. In doing so, I will have to learn to forgive, let go, and be able to face him and his new girlfriend as painful as it is…hold my head up high and look forward to a beautiful baby girl.

Melissa

What was I thinking

Wow, what was i thinking when i got with that jerk. See i got with this man who was 10 years older than i was. I found him attractive and since he was older, experienced and smart. well i let him manipulate, he made me believe that he loved me and cared for me just in a matter of 3 months. so i felt for the lies and the decieving he did, well 5 months into the relationship i got pregnant, i told him and i also told him i didn't want anything to do with him and that was the end of it. he didn't seem upset nor did he care. i was planning on abortion but i have strong beliefs so i didn't go that route. well a couple of months passed no word no phone calls nor a drive by my house. i finally decided to call him he told me to leave him alone he doesn't want anything to do eith the kid that its not his and he was calling me a bunch of bad names. so i let it be. now my son is a year old he's a cutie, smart, and loveable. i also have a great new boyfriend that i been with a year and a half and i'm also expecting my second child. he loves us and adores my son and i. i'm grate ful to be alive and witth child.

Z.Z

When my life changed

My name is Christi and i am 17 and i just found out that i am 7 weeks pregnant...My boy friend Chris new i was pregnant before i even knew. He said that he has had morning sickness...(which i think is so cute) He got into some trouble and was sent to juvy.. now i am all alone to deal with all this... i keep thinking that i dont know what to do but i do i need to be a woman and face the fact that i am going to be a mother. and i need to chill out and start acting like one.... I also keep thinking that my life is over...every one tells me that i can always pick up were i left off but it wont be the same....but i will be wiser... my boyfriend chris is so happy about the baby every time i see him he is always talking to my belly and kissing it...I mean i love it o boy do i but i dont want him to feel oblagated to stay with me just because im pregnant with his child...i can do this on my own...or at least i hope i can.. i just dont want him to feel like he is tied down....cause then he might just run away.. my mom tells me every day that she is so proud of me... cause this would be her second grand child.... no not by me this would be my first...i just hope im doing the right thing by keeping the baby....


I just hope im doing every thing right....My boyfriend says that after the baby is born that he wants to marry me but is that the right thing i mean i dont want to get married just because we have a baby i want to get married because we are in love. cause if we get married just for the baby then were will be 10 years down the road fussing and fighting making the babys life a living hell i dont want that for my child... i want my child to have the best life that i can give him or her......Every one says that i am glowing...i dont see it.....but maybe i am... who know.....

Christi

Dazed and Confused

I am 22 and after meeting a guy who i thought was the greatest guy ever, i became pregnant. We only knew each other a month before I got pregnant. I am going through a great deal of emotional changes and when he left to go out of town things hit the fan.

He came back and me and him got into physical fight. He had me arrested at 5 months pregnant and pressed charges. He now thinks i am the craziest person on earth and i need help to deal with my anger. I really dont think he understands the changes you go through when your pregnant. As of now he wants nothing to do with me and if i dont call him, he will not call me.

I have come to the conclusion that i can do this alone. If he doesn' want to work things out fine. In January I will have the greatest gift of all.

Beverly