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Hey ya'll. 31 yo first pregnancy here. I'm a little frustrated with my ob. She's competent, and nice, but she barely spends any time with me, and gives me very very basic and general information about the pregnancy. I found a whole lot more information on my own than I have from her. I'm thinking about trying to find a certified nurse midwife so I can have more hands on care...both now and especially during the birth. But I'm sheepish about the whole process.

I don't want to have to back out on my ob (do the ob's and midwives work together?), do you go to midwives only for the checkups, or would I need to keep up my ob appointments anyway? I feel a little needy for wanting so much attention from my doctor, but this is my first and probably only pregnancy and I'm scared! I want more reassurance that whoever is taking care of me is paying attention to what is happening to my body.

What kind of care are you guys getting? My first appointment took about 10 minutes. And the next one (where we'll hopefully hear a heartbeat) is scheduled for the same amount of time.

D

2 pregnancy no baby yet

I am so worried because i have already had a miscarriage and i am scared to have another. i pay attention to all of the little signs, 1st was breast tenderness, then missed period, then i got scared because i had period like cramping around the time of my period, i got so worried but they started to fade and now i get them once in a while the docter told my half of his patients complain of cramps.

then the dreams started, one was i went to the bathroom and a sac dropped out, wow it was so real i almost called and canceled my docter app. for the next day. then a week later i had a severe cramp that i thought was gas but that night i dreamed i called my doctor and he said come in for an early sonogram and they seen a heart beat and then said its a girl.

im only 6 weeks but wow is this a scary journey.

good luck to all of you, and to those who miscarry its hard but when your baby finds a soul it will be born and all of your waiting will be worth it.
good luck and healthy pregnancies to all.

tara

1st Pregancy and thrilled

I am 8 weeks pregant and thrilled. Some people would not be thrilled for me though I am sure. Here is my story.

After being married for 4 years my husband and I decided to start a family. To make a long story short, after trying for 3 years and unsuccessful we went for testing and found out he was infertile. We went through an IVF with ICSI cycle at a cost of $10000 last year and it was not successful. Well again to make a long story short. In February of this year I caught my husband cheating on me and I left him.

Although I am not formally divorced yet (it takes one year) I have been dating a wonderful man and am actually pregnant with his baby. We both are thrilled however my (ex) husband is not aware yet. He will be very upset. I no longer care about him as he has betrayed me and my family with his affair and his lies.

I do hope others out there are happy for me. I am on cloud nine right now. After 8 years of marriage and I am now 36 years old, I FINALLY am going to have a baby.!!!!

Tracy Bolton

The perfect wedding gift

Wow what an unbelievable 15 months! Met the man of my dreams after years of being in an unhappy relationship, engaged, moved in, moved home, married and within a month of being married, concieved! I can't believe how blessed i am. I couldn't have wished for a more perfect wedding gift.

I am 30 and am expecting my first child in March 06.

All hasn't been so perfect in my past, as i have mentioned i was in a very un happy relationship for 7 yrs. I also have suffered a miscarriage when i was 24, which really affected me badly. I suffered extreme anxiety attacks and depression afterwards. I still suffer with anxiety now and fear travelling too far or confined spaces.

Due to this i have been neurotically worried about miscarrying again as i don't know if i could cope. I have had some cramping and am over alert to any discomfort or pain, so can empathise with others who are worried.

the plus signs are i have experienced most symptoms of preganacy, which as you know are not pleasent. I pray every day for a safe, healthy pregnancy, as to have a child would be the most perfect wedding gift to my husband and me.

Good luck to all those first trimesters out there!

Love Maz

maz

My 3rd Little One

Having been 2 weeks late, I did a pregnancy test 2 days ago to confirm that I'm pregnant again. This is my 3rd pregnancy. Instead of being happy, as most would be, I'm depress and loss. DH wants me to terminate this pregnancy. He is determined that the 3rd little one will drastically affect our quality of life. He thinks that, he at 40 and me 38, we are too old to go through the mid-nite feeds and colic crys.

We spoke to our doctor about the options available for us - keep or terminate the pregnancy. He suggested that we take the next few days to think things through and call his nurse to fix up the next appointment when we made up our minds. But the moment we stepped out of his office, DH asked the nurse for a soonest possible abortion appointment. Seeing how adamant he was gives me the chills in the spine that even if we keep this pregnancy, he will not love the baby when he/she is born. I could bear it no longer and asked to leave to go to the washroom at the clinic and cried buckets before I appear again to leave the clinic with him. The whole way home, I could only cry.

I think the reason that I cannot bear to terminate the pregnancy is because I can already feel the baby flutter in my tummy - its alive! I cannot understand how DH can take it so simply and be so cold towards the whole thing. He thinks the abortion is only a procedure and we can move on without looking back or feeling remorse. I don't think I can think the same and handle the whole thing the same way.

On one hand, I know I will always remember this cruel event of denying this baby a chance to live. On the other hand, I fear to live the days of "I told you so" if I insist and carry on with this pregnancy.

I would welcome any comments, support or advice.

Loss