It's not easy being a single mom. As a single parent, you have to take on double the parenting duty. Other issues can make this even more complex. For example, some young moms write about what to do if my boyfriend is an alcoholic. Please share your experience and wisdom. As you will see, these problems require a great support system, time management skills and top-notch parenting techniques. If you have tips to share with other single moms or just want to help other single mothers and single parents out there, then tell us your story.
Unplanned and loved
My name is Lindsay, I am 18 years old and I have a almost 2 year old daughter.
I found out I was pregnant when I was only 15 years old, it was terrifying as I was only a child myself.
I had not been seeing the father for very long and he was more of a friend than a boyfriend, he was nearly 2 years older than me. I found out when I was 10 weeks, I have had previous troubles with my period so I didn't think twice when it didn't come on time. I was anxious and scared to tell him and I finally built up the courage to do it, he gave me 200 dollars and he said he never wanted to see me again. It hurt me deeply, it wasn't so much that he didn't want the child, because I understand that it was a difficult situation but the way he did it made me feel cheap and worthless.
I finally told my mother and she was disappointed in me but she also said to me that I had her full support in whatever I decided.
That definitely made my mind ease but I still had to come to terms with the fact that I was going to be a mother at 16 and I had to be sure I was ready for this role for the rest of my life.
I knew it would be difficult but I chose motherhood. Unfortunately my pregnancy was not an easy one I was quite ill for a long period of time and I suffered bleeding on multiple occasions that gave me overnight stays at the hospital and lots of bed rest.
After 9 long months It did finally come to an end and on July 1st 2013 I went into labour and continued to be in labour for 30 hours. When it came time to push it was discovered that my baby had shoulder dystocia which made my delivery that much more frightening.
But on July 2 at 10.30pm I gave birth to my girl
Bandit Ryan 7 pounds 2 ounces and she was perfect.
Nearly 2 years later I have a stable and amazing job, a 2 bedroom unit and an amazing support system!
I would not change a second and do not regret a thing, ill admit its been hard and exhausting but I am slowly making my way to the top.
Who needs a man!
Pregnant & DNAI am 18 and I found out that I was pregnant at 4 weeks I am now 17 weeks at the time I was staying with my dad and his girlfriend she has 8 kids but only 5 stay with her. When I found out I was pregnant it was between 2 of her sons and I told the oldest one thinking he would take it better then the younger one but he didn't he said it isn't mine and left the room and also told his brother about it he said the same. There mom asked about it and I told her the night I got pregnant I slept with both of them so its between one of the my daddy found out it laughed and said you know that those are your brothers I told him not true cause he is married to someone else. So days went by the oldest brother (he's 20) got back with his ex girlfriend me and her are close friends and she want me to move in their new house with them in not going to tell her about it cause I don't want to hurt her feelings but she think it's by the younger brother (he's 18) lately I've been talking to the younger one because he understands that it could be his from the night we all had sex I no longer stay with my dad I've moved back with my mom,lil sister, and niece. It's better being here because being there it was always a conversation about who's the father and it was uncomfortable for me. I'm hoping that its the younger one because I don't want to break up there happy home and I know that if it is the older one he wont be there for the baby cause he will be to busy trying to hide it from his girlfriend I still talk to the younger one every night he is anxious for the baby 👶 to get here to see if it his or not he wants the baby to be his and always ask how me and the baby are doing but he always adds that he not ready which I understand because I'm not either but on the other hand if its his me him and the baby will be moving into his brother and girlfriend house to be together its just a waiting game I'm due in October I'm praying 🙏 its the younger brothers.
She Changed My LifeI'm Hannah-Lynn I was 11 when I lost my virginity. I was a rich girl from a rich family. I lived my mom dad and three sisters. The oldest was 18 then 17 and 16. My sisters where always doing it with guys all the time and I wanted to fine out for myself so I started being with different guys every week. I was young and knew nothing about safe sex and that I could get pregnant before my first period. I never got my period until I was 13 when I became pregnant. I notice I was gaining weight fast and I had a little bump. That didn't stop my sexual activity. I was 2 months and didn't know who the father was 2 weeks later my youngest sister ask if I was pregnant. My parents found out when they saw my belly while I was sleeping. I told them everything they were mad. My sisters were very supportive and said they would help me raise her. It wasn't till I went in to labor when my parents said they support my desision. I was out with friends at the mall when I got my first contraction. My friend took me homer right away with my sister there. My baby wanted out but I couldn't push hard enough. Finally I was sent to the hospital there I officially when in to labor at 2:45 pm. At about 3:30 am my baby was on her way I was a small girl so it took my 2 hours to push my baby out and finally at 5:28 am Sophia Lynn was born. The final push that pushed completely out and saw her for the first time my mind was changed forever. I was glad to keep her and I knew that my life needed to change. I got put on birth control to provent me from getting pregnant anymore. I am now 17 and only was sexually active with three. I hope girls like I was read this and maybe my daughter reads this someday and keep them from making a the choice I did at a young age .my advice would be wait till u find ur true love and wait till ur both ready.
Hannah-Lynn and Sophia Lyn
Mine and Bay's storyI was 17 when I fell pregnant I'm now 26. I wasn't in a relationship and never was in one with the father. But he(zeen)was my best friend through all of my school years, we both had secret feelings for each other but never wanted to break up our strong friendship. Him being alcohol influenced after a party we both decided have sex after he told me how he really felt, I don't drink so I have no reason to blame the drink it was my decision. So AS he said he couldn't remeber anything from that night I never mentioned it. Until I missed two months, I took the test, and of course it was positive. I told my sister and she told my dad and his parents without me even knowing. The next thing I knew his parents we pulling him into my house shouting at him and me. By this time I was also doing my final exams to get into university and I had an offer for one near were I live, which I planned to go to. After his parent finished shout at us he decide he would support me AS well AS his parents if I wanted to keep the baby and everyone agreed. He had gotten an offer from a very high ranking university to study medicine. But after exam I had taken while being 6 months pregnant, I went into early labour at 7 months, he stood by me true to his word through all of it until she was strong enough to come home. A month after I got my exam result, and i could got to the uni I wanted that was close to home but decide to give it up to take care of Her, as zeen went of to university he promised to come home every weekend to help take care of the baby(who was called Bay Talulah, after my mum who I never got to meet) but he never came back he didn't even talk to his own parent, they helped out a lot, and I'm ever greatful to them. But after it was clear he was never coming back I contacted the university I turned down and they offered me a place for the next year to start to get my teaching degree in design. To try and tell zeen how Bay was doing I email him on the with picture and events like walking, talking but never got a response other then party invites that were group sent. I managed to get a part time job with the baby going to grandparents and my friend houses while I worked to help the money situation. But after three years of studies I got a job AS a teacher at the school I went to. I got paid reasonable and could afford my own flat and to support us to on our own. How I was still working 3 jobs to do this
â€¢worked at the school mom-fri and Bay would go to zeens mum
â€¢Saturday nights I worked in a pub and bay went to either my dads or sisters
â€¢Sunday I cleaned the local park and bay went to my neighbours
Three job and hardly seeing bay was hard but at lease I got her in our own place, I still remeber her first night at the new flat we had and she was amazed we didn't have to share a bedroom anymore. But I got an email from zeen saying he wanted to see her, I agreed and they met they hit it of really well and she wanted to see him again, I othered him to see her on Sunday's every week if he wanted, agreeing but he never saw her again AS never replies to my emails. Another issue with having a daughter means people run out of dates when they find out, I came to terms with it and was fine on my own, but my neighbour and I became great friend and I'm now married to her brother, but he asked me to go on a date and we took it from there very slowly. But bay had to approve of him not sure she did but I pretty sure she does now AS he buys her anything she wants. I havent mentioned one thing about bay and that she is partially deaf.
And to me this is why zeen ran, AS it was hard to cope to find people to look after her and get the right schooling especially in preschool AS ther is hardly any around. So everyone around me had to learn sign language, although she can hear she can get very confused within croweds of people and noise event as well as talking with a fast speaker. I've had another child since then with my new husband, and got a new job with better pay and two income I only work one job now at a school for deaf children that combines signlan hues with my teaching. Although bay now email zeen with what she gets up to she only get one reply from his now wife, but never signed by him.
My pregnancy story isn't the worse, I've managed to carry on my education and do something I realy enjoy. I managed to find someone new to be with and Crete a family. The pregnancy never effected me as much as some, I wanted to be a teacher just not in the way I expected to get there.
Thanks for reading
Alex and Bay
4,3,2,1 go.My name is Cassidee Jane Hodge. I am 17 years old and I was a single mom. When I was 15, I ended up getting pregnant with my son. My boyfriend was 17 at the time, senior in high school, and the star running back on the football team. I was just a quiet school girl who had no friends. When school started, I was terrified of not having any friends, so I always kept to myself. One day at lunch I looked over and Jackson Brenner was headed my way. He was handsome, outgoing, tall, and athletic. So I wondered what he wanted from me. He sat down next to me and started talking to me. Jackson told me that he'd always seen me eating alone and thought I was too pretty to be alone. I explained to him I didn't really have any friends and kept to myself mainly. Well Jackson Brenner formally stuck his hand out and introduced himself. I was very surprised. I introduced myself and it all went from there. Jackson and I started hanging out more and I went to his games to watch him play. Jackson wasn't like the typical football players. He was smart, sweet, and very kind to others. I always thought to myself why he was interested in me, but I let it go. Jackson had officially asked me to be his girlfriend on September 30th, 2012 and asked me to the homecoming dance. I was excited to finally be doing something with my life. After the homecoming dance we went back to Jackson's house and watched movies and cuddled. I actually proposed the idea of sex that night and he looked at me and asked me if I was sure. I said I think so, but since I wasn't 100% sure, Jackson said he didn't mind waiting. We ended up actually having sex at the beginning of December. It was nice, but since it was my first time, a little painful. A few weeks later I started feeling different. Sick, tender boobs, and no period. I called Jackson crying and he took me to buy a test and told me to calm down. We bought a test and they both came out positive. I remember crying in Jackson's arms and apologizing for everything. He looked at me and told me we'd get through it. We told our parents and his kicked him out and he moved in with me. We had found out we were having a boy and he proposed the name Jasper, in honor of his brother who passed away last year. I thought it was a great idea. Jackson had a football scholarship so he moved away, but he was only a couple hours away. I went into labor at the end of July and he got back here as fast as he could. Jasper Jackson Hodge Brenner was born at 11:04 p.m. on July 24th, 2013. After a week, Jackson had to go back to college for training and I said I'd bring Jasper down soon. Now, I was 16, a junior in high school with a newborn son and a boyfriend away to college. It was hard, but I managed. I was allowed to bring Jasper with me as long as he was quiet. Which he usually was. Jackson would come back every other weekend and around October, he stopped coming back. I called him and asked why he hadn't come home lately and he said that he couldn't do it anymore and he was sorry. I was devastated and asked him why. He said he was too overwhelmed. We didn't speak for months until he came home for Christmas. He came to my house and apologized for everything he'd said and done. Jackson told me he was miserable without us and made a huge mistake. I told him he had to earn my trust back and he accepted that and offered to take us out to see Christmas lights. Jasper was amazed at the lights, but he soon fell asleep. We had spent Christmas and New Year's together and when he had to go back, it was hard. Jackson kept coming home every weekend and spent time with Jasper and I. Over spring break, we took Jasper to the beach on our first family vacation. It was the best week of my life. Right as school was letting out, I had the same symptoms of pregnancy as I had with Jasper. Jackson was already home and I told him and of course, I was pregnant again. So now, I was an incoming senior, with a 1 year old son, a boyfriend who's a sophomore in college, and a baby girl on the way. Jackson transferred home to be with us and said he'd pick up when I graduated. I had complications with my second pregnancy and went into labor way earlier than expected. My daughter was born on October 1st, 2014 at 32 weeks. Her name is Cora Lucille Storm Brenner after my grandmother. She remained in the hospital for weeks and I ended up graduating early. We moved back to where Jackson went to college and he picked up with spring semester. I waited until the next year to register. Now, we're both in college and Jasper is 16 months and Cora is a month old. Jackson and I plan to get married when he graduates from college and the babies are a little bit older. I'm glad Jackson Brenner came and introduced himself that day at lunch because I am very thankful for my family.
Mommy and Daddy love you Jasper and Cora <3
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