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Two Babies At 17

I had alot of problems as a child. My mom and dad would fight all the time. My dad went to prison for murder when I was only 4 years old. Then my mommy got really bad on drugs. Me and my younger sister had to go live with my uncle, not realizing what was going on. As I got older I got into alot of bad habits.

I would sleep with different random guys. I knew that they were only using me but I wanted to feel accepted. Everyone of them that I had sex with, I would try and have a relationship with them, I guess to feel that void from my parents. They wouldnt do it. They only came around when they wanted to sleep with me or party.

Then I met this one guy. He was so sweet. I instantly fell for him. He treated me like a person and not a dog. He didn't use me. I guess we were together for about 8 months when everything fell apart. I was only 15 and he was 21.

I got into some trouble at school. I was a sophomore. And it was in december. we all decided to skip school. A lot of my friends were drinking. I honestly was not. Needless to say, we got caught. And our high school principal took us to court in february. the judge sent me to a place in ashland. It was a boot camp called Ramey Estep. I didnt get to talk to my boyfriend at all. Didn't see him. I wasnt even allowed to have my mom tell him that I loved him. Then about 5 months after i had got there I found out that I was pregnant. It took along time for me to realize it because I never had periods, or didnt gain any weight. When I found out I was almost 6 months. I didn't get to call and tell him or anything. A few days after I found out that I was pregnant a social worker came and got me and took me to a place in Lexington called Florence Crittenton for teenage mothers. Still didnt get to tell him. On October 18 2006 my first baby came into my life. He was so beautiful and i loved him more than anything. He was my world. Finally when he was about 4 months old a social worker came and got me and the baby and brought us two hours back to hazard so that my baby could have a DNA test. I seen the daddy sitting there as soon as i walked through the door. My heart felt like it fell to my knees. He didn't speak. I wanted so bad to go up to him and kiss him and hug him as hard as I could. I didnt though. He sat across the table from us and just stared at both of us. When they got done, he got up and walked out. about 3 weeks later the DNA came back positive. He was his dad. It was kinda late one night he called me at Florence Crittenton. He told me that him and his ex girlfriend had gotten back together and that they were expecting a baby too. I sat there and didnt speak. I cried so hard that day, He told me that everything would work out when I came back home. When Kaleb was 9 months old a social worker came and got us and took us to a foster home in hazard, were i was from. The people that we lived with were really nice. And the first thing that i thought was to call the dad. He talked to me every now and then for about a month. He said that he didnt know if he could ever be with me again because i was wild. Which I was pretty out of control when we moved out. The people that I lived with let me do whatever I wanted.

Then when it was the weekend of Kalebs first birthday he called me up and started this i love you and want to be with you forever, he asked me and Kaleb to come and stay the weekend with him. So of course, loving him as much as i did at the time i went. That was probably the best weekend of my life. I mean i thought that our family was together you know.

After that weekend, things got worse. I went out with some friends and he promised me that he would never talk to me or try and have a relationship with me again. When I really didn't do anything. It was me and a couple of girls. About a month later I found out that I was pregnant again. at this time i was about 17 i think. I told him that i was pregnant and he said well its not mine. I was a senior in high school, already had one baby and was pregnant in foster care. when the social worker found out I lied and told them that he wasent the dad. So that the lady that i was living with wouldnt get in troouble.

They wanted to send me to some other place in Lousiville for teenage parents, I absolutely refused. They let me go and live with the lady that i was living withs aunt. It was just down the road.. I graduated high school in may 08. I was 9 months pregnant. When I had jacob of course his daddy denied him. But in the end he was his as well. I had jake on June 20th 2008. i finally realized what I was doing. I had lost RD for good. He didnt want to be with me. So i gave up on him. Now he calls me all the time and tries to talk to me. I wont have anything to do with him. I am raising my children alone. Im 18. I go to school full time at the college and i work full time at the psychiatric hospital in hazard. I think that Im doing really good right now. and i have thought alot about it. And for right now thats what i need. To be a single parent. I can take care of my precious babies alone. There daddy sees them once a week for an hour supervised because of some trouble that he got into. So I have finally overcame that burden that I was a single teenage parent of two, stopped feeling sorry for myself and started trying to do something for both me and my children. I hope that everyone enjoyed my story.

Brittany

August, Myla, and Wyatt

I got pregnant at 17. It wasn't planned, and Zack and I were irresponsible. We weren't even together. Except once. Which is how I got pregnant. I found out when I was only 9 weeks along, I am happy I found out that early, it was good for me to have the time to deal with it on my own. I knew all my options but I never wanted an abortion. It's not that I was excited to be a mommy and have a little person who would love me, it was more like if I was going to grow this being inside me for 9 months that made her my responsibility and I was going to be responsible for it after it came out, I couldn't give my baby up for adoption after 9 months of having it with me constantly. I told my best friend first. And then she told her sister Alexis, who is a teen mom. And honestly, even though at that point everything was great and I was calm, I needed Alexis later. I told my parents and told them my plan and after a couple of days things were okay, they were excited to be grandparents. I had to tell Zack, and that was hard, but I got through it. We were out of high school so I didn't have the social aspect to worry about. Zack and I decided to just continue being friends and he would help raise the baby sending money and taking the baby once in awhile. I was happy with that, I would get sleep and my baby would have a father. I hit 7 months and got braxton hicks, my legs were swollen, I had many other problems and I was put on bedrest. I searched for baby names during that time, I couldn't think of anything that wasn't the name of somebody I knew. I got preeclampsia at 36 weeks and they induced me. After 17 1/2 hours of hard labor I finally gave birth to a baby girl, Myla Juliet. She takes my breath away when I look at her, I can't believe she's mine. When Myla was 5 she started kindergarten and I met Nick. We started dating 2 years later and I graduated university at 24. I got married to Nick and we had a little boy, August Elliott, 2 years later. August is 4 now and Myla is 12. She sees her dad on weekend, she talks to him on the phone all the time, and she spends 4 weeks with him in the summer, visiting her other grandparents and family. August and Myla have a pretty big age gap but it's good, Myla is old enough to understand and she is a great big sister to August. Nick and I didn't plan on having any more childrena but I felt like we weren't complete, so we had another baby, a boy, Wyatt Nicholas, 7 weeks ago. We are loving having 3 children, it's wonderful and August loves to help me take care of Wyatt. We have decided to have another baby, we're hoping for a girl, in about 2 years. Her name is already chosen, Deena Zoey. I can honestly say I have never regretted keeping Myla, best decision of my life.

Zoey Nicole Brewster

hurt

One would think that after everything that i have seen, and everything i have been through in my life, that i would not fall for someone so easily. my son's father is 19, i am 18. we dated for a few years on and off, but never went past holding hands and "i love you's". i had been seperated from him due to a move that caused him to go to a different school. when we finally got back together, which was around christmas of 2007, things were completely different, and he was ready to move faster. i have a fear of being alone, or displeasing someone, i felt that it would be selfish of me to tell him no, after all he had been there for me when no one else was. in february, i found out i was pregnant, and i told him, however i had not told anyone else. my adoptive parents did not know. i hadn't spoken to or seen him in about 3 weeks, so on march 6th, i went to his apartment after calling him every minute of the day. he had left and not wanted me to know. everyday now since march 6th, i have emailed him and tried to make things right with him, and he finally emailed me back on august 25th. he said that i am going to have to do this on my own. he hurt me to the point where i almost regretted my pregnancy, but i am 39 weeks along now, and i love my son with all my heart and soul, and i will make up for his father not being around.

kayla

Strong mommy

Single mommy here...I have a beautiful 3 and a half year old daughter...Nevaeh Nikole...and just had my lil price....Aidyn Isaiah about 2 months ago....My kids have 2 diffrent fathers....and it didn't work out with either one of them....Being a single parent isn't easy....but i wouldn't change a thing about it....Nevaeh's sperm donor...well he doesn't even bother calling her....and wanted to sign over rights so he didn't have to pay child support....yeah... i know...what a loser...He is now currently married and has 3 other kids...Aidyn's dad....well....things there were doomed from the begining.....He broke up with me 6 weeks into my pregnancy...Didn't even bother with me...Like i didn't exist....not only was he expecting my baby...he also had another on the way with my best friend....After Aidyn was born...we tried to work things out...only to find out....the girl he dated while i was pregnant....was now expecting one of her own....and yes its his baby....This will be baby #6 for him..he had 3 daughters from a previous relationship....6 kids from 4 diffrent girls....I am glad it ended this way....He was is a loser...who is 29 and still lives at home with mommy....he now plans on marrying the girl and still live at home....So all you young single mothers out there....I know its hard...and at times may be alil scary on ur own....But those lil ones look up to us...we are all they have....

Amanda

My beautiful baby girl

Okay, well I'm not a 15 year old mother or anything but I'm just as single and my pregnancy came as just as much of a shock to me. I grew up with my grandma, my parents died in a car crash when I was 4 months old. Other than my grandma, there is nobody. She died in 2000 and thank heavens I was anadult otherwise I would have been in the foster system. I found out I was pregnant when I was 28, I am stable financially and everything, I have money to support a child, a house, a car, etc. I just didn't have the man. Ryan, my daughters father, is just a guy I had a one night stand with. Anyways, I went through the pregnancy in a sort of shock, I was so thrilled, surprisingly enough. Everything was great, no pregnancy complications. I gave birth to my daughter on December 14th 2007. My grandmohers birthday is december 14th too. My grandmothers name was Fern, my mothers was Fedora, mine is Feya. Also, by chance, my father name was Felix. I chose to take the Fe thing another generation and named my baby girl Felicia Devikasi. She is 9 months old and I have had the most amazing experience parenting her, she is truly amazing.

Devi