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Encouragement

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I'm not sending you a sympathy, but I do know that you are a great mother! It is hard, life itself is hard, but don't get down on yourself! Your baby's father will eventually come to his senses, and if he doesn't it'll be his loss. Just be all that you can be for your children! Don't give up on them girl....

Tt

showing my appreciation

I'm not a pregnant mother, and neither do i plan on having children anytime soon. I do know that it is hard. I'm sixteen years old, and i watched my mother take care of four children on her own. My sister is twenty-nine, and she's both mommy and daddy to five beautiful kids. I do just want to say that i take my hats off to all of you who decided to keep your babies, because you could've easily taken the easy road out! I want to thank y'all for being such corageous parents, and just keep doing what you're doing, i know it may get tough at times-but don't give up. Your children will thank you in the end!...God Bless!!!

Tt

moving on

I am currently 5 months pregnant with my first child. I was with the babys father for 5 months. I was on the pill and we used condoms most of the time. I broke up with him 2 months before I found out I was pregnant. I took a test and it was postive and then went to the doctors and found out I was 12 weeks pregnant. At first he said he wanted nothing to do with the baby (he had moved back in with his ex 2 weeks after we broke up, they have a 1 and a half year old together). Then he emailed me about 2 weeks later to say he wanted to be a part of his childs life. He still does not contact me, since that email. And I know now that I am better off without him. I have much more important things to worry about then waiting around for him. I am blessed to have a family that is loving and supportive. This baby will have nothing but unconditional love from all of us. Unfortunately his father is missing out on something truly wonderful.

Tara

Tough Times

I am currently expecting my second child. In September I moved in with my unborn daughter's father, who asked me to give him another child (he has a son with his ex-wife). I was hesitant about creating a new life out of wedlock but he promised we would be married long before our baby was born, so I agreed because I also wanted another child very much (I have a 6-year-old daughter). I actually got pregnant on our first try and I was compleltey overjoyed when I saw 2 pink lines on the pregnancy test.

He seemed happy at first but as soon as my morning sickness hit, his actions toward me changed. I realized that he was the type of man who expected "his woman" to work, take care of the children, do every household chore, take care of him, and meet him at the door with a cold beer when he got in from work everyday, and wait on him hand and foot while he passed out in front of the t.v. every night. I even had to wake him up and make his lunch for work every morning at 3:45 a.m. I wasn't allowed to have friends anymore or see my family very often and I'm very close with my family so that hurt a great deal. He convinced me to sell my car and give him the money to save for a down-payment on another car. Shortly after doing this, my parents picked me up to take me to my niece's first birthday party. My ex refused to pick me up afterwards because he said he was "getting a feel for my family" and wanted to get their reaction to what he was doing to me (yes, I know now that he is completely crazy). I was devastated. I was only 8 weeks pregnant with his child and scared to death.

I remember crying and begging him to let me come back home and I couldn't understand why he wouldn't let me. All he would say was "not yet", "This is your fault" and "I won't tell you what you've done becuase you should already know." Two weeks later I went for my first prenatal appiontment and saw an ultrasound of a tiny image of what my Dr. called "my baby bean" because she was about the size of a bean. We could already see her little heart beating. That image helped me through MANY difficult times that were caused by my unborn daughter's (Emily) father.

It has been very difficult, especially not having a car anymore and him refusing to give me my money back so that I could buy one, but I got through all of those hard times without him and I'm thankful that he showed me how cruel and crazy people really can be. Now that I'm almost 36 weeks pregnant, have bought another car, and have purchased everything that our daughter will need (with no help from him), he wants me to come home. There is absolutely no way that's going to happen. I almost considered it for a few weeks because all the way through this pregnancy he has told me that the minute my daughter is born, he will take custody of her because he "knows people in high places" who will help him legally take her from me. I was actually stupid enough to believe that at first. Now I know better.

To anyone who has ever gone through a stressful pregnancy on your own and made it through without breaking down, you have my utmost respect. And for anyone who considers going back to a jerk who treats women like a possession instead of like a human being, just because you're pregnant with his child, DON'T DO IT. It has been hard to go through this experience alone, both financially and emmotionally, but I've almost made it through and I'm so much stronger now because of it. In just a few more weeks I will have a precious daughter, and my 6-year-old daughter will have a precious sister. We will be fine without him because we love each other so very much.

Good luck to all of you single mother's out there. Stay strong and remember that our little bundle's of joy are depending on us to get them started on their way to a healthy, happy life.

Tara

all is well

I am currently 20 weeks pregnant with my first baby, and was browsing this site. luckily I have the most amazing man to stand by me.

I do however have a best friend who did not have the pleasure. He would go out on the town and leave her alone at home just days before her due date, and was even caught cheating on her. He also could not make it to the birth of the baby as he was watching rugby at the local pub...

I had the privilege of being there and helping as much as i could. I just want all single moms to know that you are better off without the worries of a man who does not deserve to be a father anyway. You are never alone and i have the greatest respect for all of you who have had to go through this.

And remember... we don't need a man... we just prefer to have one...

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