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Have you ever noticed that the people who seem to have no problem getting pregnant are the ones who do not want to be pregnant? Ironic huh?

Just about everyone I know has been pregnant and/or had a baby in the last three years. All of them were unplanned and all of them took the news like a ton of bricks had been thrown into their faces. My best friend decided to have an abortion and she needed my support. I remember going to Planned Parenthood with her and seeing the tiny little dot on the screen. She would not even look at it and I will never forget her words - "Just get rid of it." All I wanted to do was get a print out of that sucker and paste it all over my fridge.

Another friend of mine took the abortion pill and I stopped in to bring her soup while she lay doubled over in bed, moaning through the pain. I thought to myself: I would go through that pain and more to conceive the damn thing and you are there getting rid of it, like it is no big deal. Then there are the other people I know, mainly acquaintances, who went through with the pregnancy and now have beautiful children that they love. They are good mothers, for the most part, but some of them still complain that they never get to go out and would kill for a drink. I would kill for the opportunity to be awoken in the middle of the night by the sound of my baby's cries, even if it IS five times a night.

It just seems funny, though, that some women can make eye contact with a man and get pregnant and be miserable and disappointed, and there are others of us who wait patiently, every month, with the hope that our "little friend" will delay her visit for the next ten months. Take myself for example: I have been married for three years and am 26 years old, my husband and I are happy and successful, and we have recently begun trying for a baby. I am happy that we have been able to have time alone together and would not do things any differently, but the nagging question still lurks in the back of my mind: why didn't the "accidental baby" happen to me? I was the one that would have been excited, jumping up and down and thrilled at the prospect. I am more mature and patient and caring. Why them and not me: why is it that the people who want to wait, don't want kids or are not old enough or mature enough for the responsibility have NO PROBLEM getting pregnant?

I do not have the answers for you or myself, but do feel good knowing that it will happen for all of us at some point or another, when the Universe and God decide that the timing is right. It's all about faith and giving it up to something greater than ourselves.

Good fortune to all the women like me.


Vanessa

PRAYIN 4 A LIL ANGEL!!

I always wanted to have a baby so I had one when I was 17, but I had a bad news. I had a miscarriage. That changed my whole life because I always wanted one and now I'm scared that it might happen again.

So now I want to try and get pregnant and hopefully everything will turn out very good, because me and my boyfriend are trying so hopefully we will have our dreams come true.

Pray for me!!!!

*PRAY*


*SHAWTY*

anxious

Well I’m 17 years old. I’ve started dating this very special guy when he was 23 and I was 16, and now he’s 24. We have recently gotten married January 20th - to be exact our plans were to get married in April but we wanted children, and the more I thought about it the more I began to see girls that were pregnant. I was on the birth control patch for about 10 months and I went off it on Jan 12. .

My story isn’t as dramatic as some peoples because I’ve only been trying for a month. My periods were never regular before. I would have them three months and then miss one. I missed my period here recently and hoped I was pregnant. I think I’ve taken 13 pregnancy tests and every time they have showed negative. I want this more than anything and so does my husband. I’m still in school but I probably will end up getting my GED.

I have had symptoms of pregnancy. I have constant headaches, severe mood swings, I have to pee all the time and I get the light cramping. I've read stories of girls that have taken test after test and got all negative results but then come to find out months later that they actually were. I’m hoping I’m one of those girls, but I guess I’ll see.

I’m coming up on my second month. Me and my husband have sex all the time, not just to get pregnant because we have always been like that, that’s our special time together but anyways maybe this month I ovulated and got pregnant. I’ll keep y'all posted.


courtney

Could I Be Pregnant

Starting off, I have been pregnant before and now I’m kind of ashamed to go to the doctor to see if I’m pregnant again. My baby is only 10 months old I had a little girl and now I think I’m pregnant again. The reason I think I am pregnant is because I’ve been a little mean, nothing seems to go the way I want it to go, I use the bathroom at least 2-3 times in the middle of the night but I have not vomited or been feeling sick on the stomach but yet my husband has.

With my first child my symptoms were the same way they are now, that’s why I don't know if I’m pregnant or not. I’m going to go to the doctor or take a home pregnancy test so I will find out if I am pregnant or not.


lashina

To be...or not to be...PREGNANT!

First off, my periods have always been kind of iffy...I might skip a month or 2, but ALWAYS get it after that. Here it is, January 10, 2007, and I haven't had a period since the middle of November! My fiancé and I had a little mishap in about mid December when I was almost due for my period, and I've taken only God knows how many HPT's but they're all negative!

I do notice a little bit of weight gain in my stomach, I'm extremely moody, and I cry at the drop of a hat. I've been peeing like every ounce of liquid that enters my mouth shoots straight through my body! And I hate to be gross...but sometimes, I feel like I have to, um, go to the bathroom, REALLY BAD but when I get in there...it's nothing.

I'm going on Valentines Day (how ironic) to a clinic to get tested there b/c I've heard theirs is more sensitive. I've been racking my brain also...wondering if could this be something other than pregnancy.


lashina