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Stacey, I understand what you are feeling. I found out my sister-in-law was pregnant about 4 weeks before I found out that I was pregnant. I lost our baby March 30,2009 at 10 weeks. My sister-in-law had the perfect pregancy. She just had her baby Aug, 25th, 09. Throughout her pregnancy it was very hard to be around her. I thought why does she get to have a perfect prenancy and I don't? She said I could be in the room for the birth and that I could come to the scan when she found out the sex. I didn't do either. It was hard enough just going to the hospital to meet the baby. It was so hard sitting here holding my neice and knowing that I will never get to hold my baby that I lost. My husband and I have been married for 5 years. In that amout of time I have had over 6 cousins, including my little brother, who have all had babies. I am the only married one in my famiily without children. I want kids more then anything. My husband is afraid that if we get pregnant that we will have another miscarriage. It's been 5 months since the loss and I think of our baby every day. I have a very hard time with it. I still cry every month. What you are feeling is normal Stacey. I know what you are going through and I am so sorry for your loss. Nothing can every replace the babies that we have lost. My only comfort is that our babies are in heaven. I pray and have hope for the future that we will be able to have children. Prayer, faith and hope are what keep me going. I have to hold onto that because I can't hold onto my baby. Hang in there, it gets a little easier with time, but the whole in your heart will be there forever. I'll be thinking of you.

Whitney

Pregancy after miscarriage

Sorry Lupe I forgot to answer your main question. Yes you can get pregnant right after a miscarriage with no cycle in between. My doctor told me it was possible but it did not happen for me like that.

Angie

Pregnancy after 2 miscarriages

This is in response to Lupe. I found out I was pregnant In July 2008 and miscarried that same month, I then found out I was pregnant again in March of 2009 and miscarried the same week I found out. I was devastated thinking I would never carry a baby to term. Doctors usually will not run any type of tests until you have had three miscarriages but my doctor went ahaed and ran them and could not find any reason behind my miscarriages. I could go into so much detail but I would be writing all day. I felt like I wasn't normal and I was curious all the time as to why I had two losses. I was always online googling miscarriage. Anyway the good news is I had one menstrual cycle after my second miscarriage and found out I was pregnant again which was a total surprise to both me and my husband. I believe in prayer and that's what worked for me. I got pregnant without even trying. I am 19 weeks now and all is well. The baby is doing well and I get to find out the sex of the baby in two weeks. Try to relax and everything will work out for you. I know how it feels to lose a pregnancy but hold on because a blessing is on the way. I will pray for you. Just because you had two miscarriages does not mean you will have a third. Also talk to your doctor about prometrium. I was put on that until I was 12 weeks. It's usually prescribed to women who have had one or more miscarriages. I'm not really sure if I needed it or not but my doctor said it wouldn't hurt.

Angie

Misgarrige

HI THERE GUYS IM A FIRST TIMER AT THIS WRITING STUFF BUT HERE GOES. ON 08-22-2009 I LOST BY BABY THIS WILL BE MY SECOND MISGARRIGE I JUST WOULD LIKE TO KNOW IF ANYONE HAS GOTTEN PREGANT RIIGHT AFTER LOSING THE BABY.RIGHT AFTER I LOST MY BABY ABOUT 3 DAYS TO BE EXACT I MADE LOVE TO MY HUSBAND IS THERE ANYWAY I CAN BE PREGANT FROM THAT WHAT DO YA THINK GIRLS.

lupe

my beautiful baby

I was so happy when i found out i was pregnant. It had happened the first time of us trying and was what i had always wanted. It makes you feel so happy and calm and contented. I loved being pregnant. A few weeks after finding out, i got married and life seemed perfect. We went on our honeymoon and thats where things started to go wrong. I had some pain on the right hand side and some spotting. Being in the middle of no wheer in the indian ocean we decided to come home a week early. I felt so scared and had to wait 4 days until we could get back home and checked. We went to the doctors straight away who sent me for a scan at the epu. After what seemed like ages she said the baby was fine, we saw the heartbeat and our baby looked so perfect. She said i was about 6 weeks 4 days pregnant. She also found a cyst, about 6cm big and filled with fluid which was what was causing my pain. The relief i felt was amazing, knowing my baby was going to be ok. Over the next 2 weeks i just got alot of rest and slowly started to believe everything was going to be ok. Until last saturday. I was 9 weeks 4 days pregnant. I noticed i had started to bleed again. My husband phoned my mum who phoned the doctor. I wanted to ignore it and pretend it was going to be ok, but deep down i knew something was wrong. They sent me to hospital. i saw a student doctor who said it could be anything and i would need a scan but couldnt have one until monday morning as they didnt have the staff working on the weekend. The bleeding was getting heavier and i was having mild cramps but we did as she said and went home. The bleeding continued and the pain got worse, like very bad period pain. I had started to pass small clots and bits of tissue and was convinced my baby had died. Monday morning finally came, i felt sick with nerves. We went for the scan and she said the baby was fine, bleeding is normal and basically made me feel like i had wasted her time. She showed us the baby and heartbeat and i burst into tears, so relieved. We tried to ask her questions but she walked away and a student nurse tried to comfort us. We felt silly for being there again but deep down i still knew something was wrong. I wish she had listened to me. We went home again in shock everything was fine. My husband went to work. Two hours later though the cramps got worse. They were coming every 10 mins or so but again i thought i was being silly, i had just seen the heartbeat-everything was fine, the doctor had said. By the evening i was in so much pain. My husband got home from work and i couldnt move due to the pain. It was like contractions coming every 4 minutes, even though i had never been pregnant i knew what was happening. He phoned the doctor who called an ambulance. A paramedic car arrived first, he gave me gas and air and said my blood pressure was low and i had to get to hospital. An ambulance arrived and off we went. The gas and air were not helping, i was in agaony and in despair at losing my baby. Once at hospital i was examined by lots of different people who didnt tell me anything. The pain was the worst i have ever felt. They gave me morphine and put me on a drip as my veins had all collapsed. Also from the gas and air i was breating too much oxygen and my finders and legs all locked up. They then moved me to a different hospital, again more examinations and not told anything. the night passed with us still waiting, wanting answers and in pain. I was admitted onto a ward and they said my husband had to go home. He could come back that afternoon when i would have another scan. I was terrified and didnt want him to leave but i was so exhausted we didnt argue. He had been gone 20 minutes when i felt a rush of blood. i told the nurse but she asked me to wait before i went to the loo as she was checking me in. So i sat in my blood terrified. Finally she let me up to go to the loo and thats when i felt it. Like something big but soft come out. I waddled to the toilets and there lying on the pad was the whole sac with my baby still inside. I knew exactly what i was. i wrapped it in tissue and waited outside the toilet for a nusre to come. I gave it to her and she said it was my baby. She led me back to my bed and left me there alone while she went to get the phone. I had all the other patients around me listening knowing exactly what was going on. In front of them i had to phone my husband and tell him we had lost the baby. Ive never felt so useless. Then i waited on my own again until my husband drove back to the hospital. I told them i was going home at that point. That was 5 days ago. I have to go back for a scan with all the other pregnant women in 2 days time to check that everything has come out. Im still belleding and have some pain, but nothing compared to what i had. I want to know why it happened so quickly? How can my baby be so perfect and healthy and a few hours later everything go so very wrong? Why were we not listened to or told anything? I was examined by lots of different doctors and not one sat down with us and said what was happening. Why was i left alone after i had lost my little one, i just wanted someone there to cuddle or tell me it was going to be ok. Why at the scan did she not pick up something was wrong? I told her i had heavy bleeding and pain but noone checked. the blood must have been coming from somewhere and was a sign something was wrong, why did she not see it or listen to me?
I just feel so helpless and upset. Why does this horrible thing happen? Why do we have to wait until we have been through it 3 times before they will even start testing? If there is anything i can do to increase my chances of a successful pregnancy next time then i will do it. We wanted this baby so, so much. Life just seems so empty now. To my darling baby, we love you so, so much and i will always have a special place in my heart that just belongs to you. I will never forget you, mummy xxx

c