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Miscarriage

I realised I was pregnant a week after I had this burning pains in my stomach. My husband rushed me to the emergency rooms as it was a holiday and the dr examined me funny. He asked me what I ate to cause the pains.

He gave me a treatment for food poisoning & infections then we left the room. After 1 week of treatment when my dr returned we went for a follow up...that’s when he realised that I am miscarrying. Blood results came up neg for bchg but my bleeding told the story. So please be careful.

Lab results are sometimes not 100% accurate but the sonar (2d) managed to see what was happening to me.


Tebogo

Trying Again...

Ten and twelve years ago, I was blessed with 2 beautiful children. Unfortunately, my 1st marriage was not as blessed and we divorced. Flash-forward to the present, I am now with my soul mate and we were so looking forward to creating another beautiful child.

So, we started trying last August to conceive, and after 7 months, on Valentine's Day this year, we found out we were pregnant... A little over a month later, we were devastated to find out thru a routine ultrasound that my pregnancy was not sustainable and I was in fact miscarrying.

I've never felt my heart ache as much as I did when I heard the news. The first 2 weeks after were the worst... everyone was always asking me how I was feeling, which was a terrible reminder of what I had just gone thru.

This kind of loss is so much different than any other and is very hard to put into words. Feelings of inadequacy consumed me b/c there was nothing I could have done to prevent it. And no words could quell the emotions I was going thru... not even the stories of how common MC's are could provide relief. In fact, they made me feel worse! I actually didn't realize how depressed and saddened I was until only recently, now that some time has passed and I am feeling stronger emotionally and physically.

The hardest part of healing for me was accepting that this was an actual loss and not just some medical condition to recover physically from. It was only after I realized that it was okay to grieve for my angel (however I needed to and for however long I needed to), that I was able to look to the future and start moving forward again.

I've just had my 1st period since the MC, and we are planning on trying again right away. For me, doing so is another way to move forward... but I will always carry in my heart my little angel.


Kelly

Heartbroken

My husband and I were so excited to find out we were going to have our second child after 10 years. We had tried and tried and had come to terms that our beautiful son would be an only child. As I look back on it, I think I knew something was wrong. I'm a planner, but through almost 4 months of pregnancy I only bought one thing for the baby.

At 14 weeks I started spotting. I called my doctor and the nurse told me that it was normal as long as the spotting wasn't bright red. The spotting stopped and the next few days I felt pretty good. Then last Saturday, April 28, I felt strange all day. I really couldn't tell if I was cramping or not. It had been 10 years since my last pregnancy and I thought maybe it was round ligament pain.

As the day progressed the pain intensified and at 10:30 that night I knew something was terribly wrong. I called my doctor who directed me to the Emergency Room. By the time I got to the ER I was in terrible pain and began bleeding in the waiting room. I finally got back to a room and shortly thereafter the baby passed. The worse part of it all is I saw the baby. I had a D&C and was released from the hospital late Sunday afternoon.

I've blamed myself repeatedly, thinking of all the things I could have done differently. My doctor told me there was nothing I could do. He also told me that after examining the baby that there were some abnormalities. That's the only thing that has given me peace.

I know in my head that it's nature way of dealing with things, but it still hurts something terrible. I desperately want to try again, but of course I'm terrified. And after waiting 10 years the first time, I'm concerned that I won't get another chance.

Right now I can only leave it in God's hands. I know he's in charge.


Shannon

6th times a charm?

My name is Amanda and I'm 25 years old. My husband and I have a beautiful baby daughter who's over 3 now, which I had in 2003. During my pregnancy I had what's known as displaysia and after I gave birth received what's called the LEEP procedure, but besides that I had a perfectly healthy pregnancy. She came out 11 days late at 9"9" and absolutely beautiful.

Since then I have lost my past four children from 6 weeks- 2 months and one day. The last one came so quickly after the prior miscarriage that there wasn't time for any testing in between. I was up late one night and started bleeding. I went to the toilet and heard a plunk. Desperate for answers, I took a ladle and spooned out was was left of my pregnancy to put in the refrigerator until the next morning for testing. I must state that it was the most traumatic thing I've ever done.

I've gotten no answers from any of the tests and here I am, pregnant again. I try to be excited which is what pregnancy should be, but I have such worry in my heart. I do everything right. I don't drink caffeine, eat the wrong foods, drink alcohol, smoke, even go places where other people do those things, but it's not enough. It just shows you that nothing is in your hands.

We haven't told our families yet because every time we do decide to tell them we lose the baby shortly after, but on the other hand I couldn't imagine losing a child and not having the support of my family.

I don't know any of you who may read this or who may skim past it, but please say a prayer for my unborn child and I'll send some prayers your way as well. Thanks for listening.


Amanda

PMS Symptoms after miscarriage

I recently went through an early miscarriage last month and it has been going on 4 weeks since and I still haven't got my "." and I have been experiencing PMS symptoms for most of this time. I keep expecting my "." to arrive any day and hope it does because I feel it is affecting my day-to-day activities.

Normally I have PMS for 1 week before my period, not 3 and a half weeks straight. I have been trying to keep positive about last months ordeal because we are blessed with an 8 month old baby girl already and we only had a couple of days to take in the pregnancy news before I miscarried. I am sad about it though and the other symptoms haven't helped much.

I keep expecting it to come any minute and nothing happens. A friend of mine thinks I might still be pregnant, but I feel it is impossible with how much blood I lost and all the cramping I had at the same time. She told me she had three normal periods during her pregnancy with her daughter.


amberb