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Pregnant at 13

When i was 12 i started going out with this guy and he was 13. Its hard to believe but we were in love even though we were so young.

When i was 13 i fell pregnant which wasn't surprising since we never used protection. He broke up with me a week after i fell pregnant and i was devastated and somehow i knew i was pregnant at 1 week.

i continued to beleive i was and then i missed a period and it was all too much for me so i tried to ignore it. i was still desperately in love with the father and i had to see him everyday at school. i eventually told him and he acted as though he didn't care (maybe he didn't beleive me?). i remember feeling so alone and all i had was this baby.

I did a test at about 10 weeks and then i knew i couldn't ignore it. i remember getting up before everyone else so that i could throw up without anyone else knowing and belly was getting bigger and my boobs were to and my mum was even commenting. i eventually had to tell my mum. It was the hardest thing i have ever had to do.

She ran up to me in shock and hugged me then she went into a panic and asked how far along i was cause she knew we hadn't been together for months. SHe called the doctors then she cancelled that apointment then she called the abortion place. That was it, i had no choice in the decision. i had to get an abortion.

i hadn't really thought much about what i was going to do with the baby but i just assumed i would definitely be having it so i was really close to the baby. the abortion was in 2 days time so i cried like ive never cried for the whole day leading up to it.

my mum calmed down and we talked about it heaps (it must have been really hard for her) and she said to me "it's ok to have an abortion because the little soul inside inside you Knows you are too young and it will wait until you are ready.

So we went to the abortion place and i got an ultrasound and i saw my baby on the screen and i had to fight back the tears. I was told i was about 18 weeks pregnant but she made it look younger on the screen so that it was allowed to be aborted. i never found out what sex it was but i felt it was a boy.

I then had to go into a counseling room and they asked me are you sure you want to do this and i looked at my mum and she was mouthing the words yes please, so i said yes even though i realy didn't want to. then i had to lay on the table while the doctor held my arm and i screemed at them and begged my mum not to let them and i was crying and i remember them putting the needle in my arm and i thought , oh no its over there is nothing i can do now, as i fell asleep.

i woke up still crying. it was all pretty much forgotten about straight away. i shut of to the pain of it and rebelled badly as i got older. i am now 19 and i have a 2 year old son (i had him when i was 16, a much happier story).

i have always regretted having the abortion but after being a mum for 2 years now, i can see i wouldn't have been able to do it at the very young age of 13.

Elle

Recurrent Miscarriages

I am wondering if there is anybody else out there who has had a simillar problem such as mine?

We recently just experienced our 5th miscarriage. I saw a specialist after the 3rd, they all seem to end at about 8 1/2 weeks. Each one with a strong heartbeat that disapears. I have tested positive for both MTHFR genes. I also have lupus anticoagulant (autoimmune disorder). To treat these the dr. put me on a baby asprin daily and heparin injections.

The 4th pregnancy ended much differently than the others, it never developed properly leading them to believe it was simply chromosonal and not a good pregnancy. More than likely they said it was not related to my blood clotting disorders.

The 5th one was going very well, strong heartbeat at 5 weeks 5 days, then checked at 7 weeks 4 days and yesterday at 9 weeks no heartbeat. It was measuring 9 weeks and 1 or 2 days so the heart just stopped. I will have a d&c on Thursday.

They first were telling me that it seems most likely that the autoimmune disorder is why I am miscarrying but now I am wondering if the MTHFR is more of a contributing factor? Any advice from anyone who has a simillar situation.
Thank you.

Stephanie

This is a story of an Angel

This is a story of an Angel........

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On March 4, 2008, I gave birth to my son Josiah, he was 34w 1d. It wasn't a common delivery since I found out the day before that he had passed while still inside me. I know that at this point I should be happy and ready to give birth to a strong and healthy newborn, but god had other plans for my baby Josiah.

This is so extremley hard to sit and write about this and I know like for me that you are probably in shock! The doctors have yet to give me an explanation and I will not find out any news until I get an autopsy report back which will be in a few weeks.

You know, the morning Josiah passed, I felt something was wrong I think I was in denial. I felt Josiah move about 2:45am and that was the last time. I woke up in the morning and ate with my 3 year old and then went to target. I went and bought more Diapers and things for Josiah, ate lunch and went home. When I got home he still wasn't moving. That's when I called the doctor an d was told to go to L and D.

I knew deep down something was wrong but I didn't want to face the truth. I got to the hospital at 4pm and by 4:40, after hearing no heartbeat on the fetal monitor or seeing one on the ultrasound machine the DR looked at me and said "I'm sorry but your baby has passed."

Those are words that I hear when I wake up and when I go to sleep at night. My Josiah is truly an Angel now and no matter how many times I ask god "why me" or "why did you take my baby from me" I know I will never have an answer.

I left all the things I bought for Josiah that day on my bed that morning hoping I was going to come home with a healthy baby.

I just want to say to everyone Good Luck with your new bundles of joy and I wish all of you happy healthy babies!!

Don't take for granted one minute of this joyous occasion and make sure you are truly intuned with your body and you do all your kick counts. For all I wish is that I still had my baby:(

~Samara

Josiah Pedro Pires

March 4, 2008 @ 9:15pm

5lbs 12.4 ounces,

20 inches

"Truly an Angel"

samara

A heartache that goes ON

well im 18 yrs of age..and i first found out that i was pregnant on fathers Day..HMM what a day..well i was goin to go out with my BOYFRIEND we were goin to go see a movie and i just had to tell me soo as we walked down the block he asked me what i had done today and i told him the same as every otha day then i said i also took a pregnancy test and im pregnant..

and let me tell you i have neva in the whole 1yr in a half seen him as happy as he was that day..SURE i was soo happy myself but to see him that way made me more happier...well then on july 17 we had a misunderstanding we were fighting yelling it was kind of bad then after 20 mins of doin that we stopped..cause we knew stress was bad for the baby i had to be around 2months pregnant at that time

well then after the fight we went in side and went to bed the next morning i woke up not feelin so well so i called my mother jus to say hi and tell her how i was feeling and told her i was having so cramps and rite away my mother told me to go into the bathroom and see if i was bleeding and sure enuff i was i called her back and i was crying my eyes out at this time and she came to get me soo we could go to the hosptal..

when we got there i just new i didnt need no doctor to tell me something i already knew..and all i can say is after that day i was neva the same slowly i know things will get better for me and my boyfriend..and im sure one of these's days GOD will make it up to us..

The ONES that lost and suffered the most he will bless us all im sure of that

Samantha**
MY heart goes out to everyone that has lost a peices of them on there day....

SaMmI

Saying Good Bye

On Valentines Day 2008 i felt abdominal pain on the right side of my stomach. I went to the Doc for a check up as i was worried tht it might be appendics. However, i was tested negative for it.

2 weeks later i find myself so lethargic and it was very hard for me to wake up in the morning...Again, being paranoid i went for a check up. The doc suggested that i take a blood test just to see whether i'm having dengue fever or etc..However, on 25th of Feb i found out that i was pregnant at 5wks.

It was the news that my husband & i have been waiting for since we got married on 26th Oct last year. Both our parents were thrilled & excited since it will be their first grandchild. I was well taken care of by my mum & mother in law in terms of food intake, supplementary vitamins etc...However, on 1st of Mar i noticed light stains on my panty, so i rushed to the nearest O&G and she said that i'm facing with a theartened miscarriage.

She prescribed me with hormone pills that was supposed to support the pregnancy for 1wk so that by the time i turn 6wks, she is hoping to hear the baby's heartbeat. On 3rd of Mar i woke up in a pool of blood...The worst thing is that my husband is working 450miles away from me & i was facing it alone..i was rushed to the hospital & i was told not to continue with the pregnancy as it was life threatening..i cried myself out & luckily my husband arrived on time to comfort me.

He told me that what's more important is to make sure that i'm safe & to accept the fact that our baby is not ready to be in this world. There must be a good reason behind it & God have His special ways of giving something good in return in the near future for our patience in accepting this loss..

I am truly grateful for having such a great husband who gave me strength, love & encouragement when i need it the most.

At 9.30pm i said good bye to my baby & just before i was pushed into the OT, my hubby kissed my stomach & said good bye to our baby as well. It was the most painful sight tht i've ever experienced however i still believed tht our body will reject something that is not meant to be.

At 11.00pm i was out from the OT & i was still 'high' but i can still hear my husband sobbing next to me saying tht it hurts him a lot to see me in such a great pain & having to leave me behind as he has to go back to work which is 450miles away..before he went off, he wrote one beautiful note for me which managed to put a smile on my face the next morning when i woke up.

And now after 2 weeks of the painful loss i've learnt to appreciate life & people around me more. I realised the less i worry, the sooner i get better..and now i'm set to start a new beginning for my marriage. Hey, at least my husband has a point; we are proven to have babies!

And now, we will wait for another 3 mths to pass before conceiving again..

And i truly pray that God will grant us with a beautiful child one day to brighten up the family & brings lots of joy & love to our marriage.

Finas