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1st and hopefully last miscarriage

I found out I was preganant with my second child and was excited after taking two home pregnancy tests. Only to find out a couple weeks later I am in the midist of a miscarriage. I started with slight cramping and then some light spotting. By the next day I had horrilbe cramps and bleeding. At the doctors the tests still said I was preganant though they said I was miscarring. I never thought I would miss some body that wasn't even that far along yet. No words can express this empty sad feeling. My husband has tried to make me smile and say we will try again, but while I am trying to cope I have to watch my sister-n-law who is also preganant and due around the same time I was go through her preganacy. It really hurts and I hope I can understand with time why this is happened to me. I can only hope next time I get pregnant things will go so much better.

Meg

my angel

Soon after i became pregnant i started bleeding but after a scan i felt better seeing my baby was fine. Just at the start of my 24th week my waters broke i was devastated i was told that this was a risk to my health aswell as my babies and if i wanted to carry on with the pregnancy, i had to give my baby a chance. A week after my waters broke i started bleeding really heavy and was admitted to hospital, for the next 4 weeks a was monitered every day for infection. The dotors said my baby was a miricle still fighting and growing well. When i was 24 weeks i went into labour my baby girl fought till the very end she died because the cord came down 10 hours before my baby did when she was born i got to say with her over night which was so important to me she is my angel.

linda d

Lost my first baby

I actually felt that I may never get pregnant and I have loved kids all my life. I started babysitting a twin 1 1/2 year old twin boys and their 8 yr old when I was in 5th grade and continued babysitting all the way through my life. I'm now 32 years old, married to the most loving and supportive husband a woman can find, and we've lost our first baby. I was only 8.5 weeks along but that was long enough to feel everything in my body changing and adapting to the new life inside me. Then to go to the doctor and not hear a heartbeat was just devastating. Both my husband and I were in shock and want to keep trying but now I'm so scared to get prengant, start getting attached to the baby and lose another one.

Need advice on acceptance, faith, and moving forward.

linda d

Coping after miscarriage

Hallo,

I want to say thank you for all your stories as I now know I am not alone with all this pain.

I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks on 3 May 2008. We were on holiday in Namibia when I got a big cramp, ran to the bathroom and just starting bleeding. It did not stop at all and by then I already knew that it was over. I knew that you can not have this much bleeding and still be pregnant. Rushed to hospital. I stayed in hospital for 24 hours. It was terrible as they put me in the maternity ward. I wanted this baby so badly and now it was all over and I was not even close to my family and own doctor! It was my first pregnancy.

I came back to work on 19 May 2008. It is really difficult for me to go back to normal life. It seems as if some people have forgotten already and think that it is not so bad as I was only 3 months pregnant but to me it was my baby!!! Thank goodness for the wonderful support of my husband. Without him I would not have made it.

One of our friends gave birth on 20 May 2008 and a lot of others are pregnant. It is really difficult for me to be happy for them.

I hope my heartache subsides soon....

Thanks for your stories - it gives me hope.

Regards,
Corlia from South Africa

Corlia van Heerden

I was normal until now

I had no problems with my first two children and was proud to say when going to the doctor with my third pregnancy that I had two pregnancys and two babys! I did not fear losing this baby and was completely excited to be pregnant. At 6 weeks along we had a boy and girl name picked out and we were going to be buying the babys crib soon! At 7 weeks I woke up completely covered in blood and was scared to death. The doctor told me what to watch out for and to just take it easy because I was having a miscarriage. That is all they told me though! Thank God for computers and this website. I am happy to say that we will be trying again as soon as I have my first period!!! I never realized that miscarriage was so common and that considering this is only one and I have had two healthy babies before that I will never have to go through this again hopefully!

Samantha