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The Shock

After having a trouble free first pregnancy, when I became pregnant for the second time, a lot of my first worries were gone. If it went right first time, it would second time, wouldn't it? We found out on Xmas Eve and involved our 2 year old son in as much as we hoped he could understand.

We went along to an 18 week scan following a high risk triple test result to find out if our baby had Down's. The outcome would enable us to be prepared if that was the case. Happily we chatted with the mid-wife and asked her to tell us the sex. It was then that she stopped looking at the screen and placed her hand on my uncovered hip. 'I'm sorry I can't detect a heartbeat.' Those fatal words every mum to be dreads. Our baby had died at 15 weeks.

The delivery was awful but not as dreadful as I had imagined. I was just glad to get home to our son.

The weeks that followed have seen me laughing out loud and then crying for hours. After 4 weeks I do feel a bit better but then you have good and bad days don't you? However, I do feel even closer to my lovely husband following all the support and comfort he has shown me.

Dob

I just had a miscarriage

Hi. I was ten weeks when I had a d/c. The babys heart wasn't beating at nine and my blood levels dropped significantly. My d/c took place two days ago and I am going from being okay to being an emotional wreck. My husband is trying to be strong but it is still so hard.

Tiffany

Fibroid 15 weeks Miscarriage

I had a miscarriage this Sat. I was 15 weeks pregnant. it was the 1st child for my husband and I (we both have kids from prior relationships). I have a large Fibroid (9cm) and that has been noted as the cause. I was fine all along until I started to feel some pain last Tues. I went to hosp and they said baby was fine and sent me home. I started bleeding early Sat morning and by 11 am I had lost the baby. I feel incredibly sad at times and then other times ok.

Sharon

two miscarriages in 8 months

My husband and i had been trying since Jan 05 to become pregnant - at the beginning of July I was 1 day late!! 1 day - you can tell i was becoming a bit obsessive at this point! We were absolutely over the moon - we told everyone! 4 weeks later i started bleeding whilst at work. i came straight home and went to my local a and e department!

they referred us to the early pregnancy unit for an appointment that afternoon where they told us that the sac was empty and i had miscarried. the nurse who did the scan needed a few lessons in bedside manners - cow! we went to tell both sets of parents who were both equally devastated, and then had to text friends. i've only just deleted their replies last week! i used to go back and read them. i knew them word for word!

to add insult to injury my best friend conceived in the first month of trying and my sister-in-law, who already has one child which she fobs off onto her mum, is pregnant again and chain smoking!! aaaaargh!

2nd Jan 06 - was 2 days late - yes still obsessing! did pregnancy tests which turned out to be positive! we were overjoyed and scared stiff too! we told our close family and asked them to keep it quiet. my other sister-in-law got drunk and ended up telling everyone anyway - not impressed!

made it past 7 weeks - which is what i got to last time, and was overjoyed! i eventually made it to the blessed 12 weeks and was so happy both my husband and i cried as we knew it was an important milestone! that night i started bleeding - i felt as if it were some cruel practical joke! so i started bleeding and had excruciating period like pain, we both knew what it meant!

there was no point going to the hospital as we knew what they would say and the early pregnancy clinic wasn't open till monday morning. i went to bed on sunday night and woke up around 3am. went to the toilet, and i've never seen so much blood, i looked as if i'd been stabbed - pleasant i know! i shouted for my husband and then passed out. when i came round i told him to ring for an ambulance as i knew i couldn't walk.

i got to the hospital and lost all my dignity! i was made to wear paper knickers and a really dodgy gown. i was examined and told my cervix was open and was therefore miscarrying! the doctor made me do a urine test, i pulled down my knickers and this massive piece of tissue dropped out of me! i honestly thought it was my kidney it was that big! i was screaming so loud the nurses came running and assured me it was only a clot of blood and not my baby!

i was admitted onto a ward and then taken for a scan which told me there was massive amounts still left inside me and would need to have a d&c!

as bad as all this sounds, my husband had the worst of it! he had to phone parents, friends and work to let everyone know what had happened! i wouldn't wish that job - again, on my worst enemy!

we're taking each day at a time, but it's hard when i go to my mother-in-laws or sister-in-laws as they are still excited about the imminent birth of 2nd child and 2nd grandchild! it's hard but we're getting there!

Anna

5 weeks

MY husband and I were married on March 23, 2005. He had a daughter and I had a son.... We decided in September that we wanted to add to our family. I went off birth control at that time.... Since September I have been reading books on fertility and monitoring my cycles... I knew when I was fertile and we went for it...Then for several months we had no luck...

Then this month I felt nauseated about a week before my period was due.. I work at a nursing home and thought nothing of it as there was a stomach bug sweeping through the building.... A few days later I became more nauseated, but never actually vomitted. My breasts become swollen and tender, I realized that Sunday morning that I was due for my period and had no menstrual symptoms. I took a home pregnancy test and saw a faint line. I thought I was hallucinating so I took another... The same faint line showed.

When my husband came home that night from work he confirmed that I wasn't losing it and we took two other tests.. one that said "pregnant" on it and the other that had a PLUS (+) sign. We were both excited. On Monday I called the doctor's office... They told me to come in on Wednesday with my first morning urine. I did as I was told. The urine test in the office came out negaitive so they sent me to have my HCG drawn... My HCG level was 16 which they said was either really early or there was the chance I could have been having a miscarriage...

I refused to believe the miscarriage..... I had wanted another baby so badly.... They gave me a presciption for prenantal vitamins and I started taking them right away. I believed I was pregnant because I "felt it". They made an appointment for the following Wed. for my recheck of my HCG level. On Friday night I was at work and I had to use the bathroom... I went in and saw a small amount of blood on my underpants... At first I freaked and told myself to calm down as some women spot when they are pregnant.

I began to wipe myself and the blood just kept coming...It was bright red and filled with clots..... I instantly started crying and ran out and told my co-workers... We were short staffed that night and I couldn't leave right away.... I spent 3 hours working and crying and finally another nurse heard I was upset and came to see if I was alright...She spoke to a couple of other nurses and within minutes they had me out the door and I had to come home.

My husband took me right up to the ER....After 3 hours it was confirmed I had a miscarriage....... My HCG level had dropped to 2 and the MD said that it was virtually a negative test....My husband said nothing as we left the ER.... I was so upset I came and laid in bed... My husband never said anything.... He just held me tight.....

Today is Day 2 since my miscarriage... I am trying to cope.... My son doesn't understand.... I am hoping my husband will talk to me about this so we can move on and try again in 3 months like the doctor said!

Sara